I Need Advice
Hey guys ok i'm going to explain a situation and then i want some advise if you think that you can help. Ok so my mom has Fibromyalsia (can't spell it) since i was born and thats like a disease where her muscles and joints hurt a lot. Anyways so she has been taking this new medicine and its really been helping with the pain and keeping her energy up and she's been doing a lot better but she went to the doctor today to see what was wrong with her shoulder b/c thats been hurting her a lot lately. Anyways ok here's the problem, for 17 years, i have not had a day go by that i didn't hear her complain about her back or somthing hurting. She goes to the doctor several times a month and gets massages every Monday for an hour. I don't mean to sound insensitive but its hard to hear her complain as much as she does, even if she was in a ton of pain (but she's really not, its just annoying type of pain she one time admitted to me) and its hard to keep up with all of her doctors appointment and ask how they went every time. It's not just me that feels this way either. Holly and my dad have a hard time with it b/c it is just draining for us to have to listen to every little thing that hurts on my mom's body every single day. Really i love her and i listen and i'm sympathetic to her but its tough. Anyways so today she had an appointment for her shoulder and she got a shot that should take the pain away, but today where she got the shot will hurt. So she comes home and i'm already there and she starts saying oww and that her shoulder hurts and i say how did you appointment go. So she tells me and i listen for like 15 min about everything and say i'm sorry that she's hurting. Then i walked to the stairs and picked up my backpack and she says "gosh this hurts" and walks away, so i start walking up the stairs b/c i figured she was going to go to her room or somthing. And she's like thanks for being so sympathetic lindsay...really sarcastic. And she starts talking to me again how she just wanted a little sympathy b/c she always gives me sympathy when i hurt and that it would be nice if i would just give her some. Ok i just played the i'm sorry i really messed up thing with her just cause i didn't really want to start anything. Ok so the question is...am i being too tough about it...i just don't know if i am being insensitive and i need to work on that...but if i'm not how do i tell her that i'm sorry she hurts but to let her know that i can't give her all the sympathy that she wants b/c i'm tired of hearing it so much. I mean yes she's nice to me when i hurt.. but how often is that? I don't hardly ever complain about things and if i do then they REALLY hurt. Ok so what do i do? I honestly want to tell her that the family can't take much more of her complaining but she would probably slap me in the face if i did that and she'd be really upset. SOOO...let me know what you think i should do! Love you guys thanks!