the "we" issue
play on the internet.. that's what. i've actually been quite busy at work lately, but i have, of course, found time to write something at live journal. note: this is NOT about anyone who will most likely read this.. aka.. vanessa and jessie. considering they are both in serious relationships, i figured i should clarify :)
you know what really annoys me? when people are completely up their boy/girlfriend's ass. i know, i know, i used to be one of those girlfriends that i speak of, but i'm sooo not anymore, and those who are really sicken me. to be more specific, i hate it when i ask one of my girlfriends if she would like to go to dinner or a braves game or whatever and she replies with "oh, i'd love to, but we're doing blah blah blah tonite." umm, honey, i didn't ask what you and your boyfriend are doing, i asked what YOU were doing. even worse, i hate it when i ask her "hey, some people are going to a braves game tonite, do you wanna go?" and she says "we're not doing anything tonite, so that sounds like fun!" um, i didn't invite your stupid boyfriend. it's funny cuz we weren't and hadn't been talking about her boyfriend, and she'll say "we" out of nowhere. well, who's we? you and your mom? you and your dog? me and you? it seems like everyone's so "we" about everything. what happened to "me?" what happened to doing things on your own? you sound like an old married couple! i'm always in a relationship, and i'm always hanging out with my boyfriend at the time, but i'd usually say "oh, i'm gonna go to the movies with marty tonite" instead of saying "oh, we're going to the movies tonite" especially when we hadn't even been talking about marty. if someone said "what are you and marty doing tonite?" and i said "oh, we're going to the movies." it would be different. does anyone get me?
usually, but of course not always, the “we” user is someone who is in a new relationship or someone who has been wanting a relationship for a while and has finally in one. it’s cheesy to me.. it’s like okay, I under stand that youre happy to finally be in “we” status with someone, but do you have to use it every 5 seconds? we this, we that. barf. and I really hate it when someone is a habitual “we” user when the person they are “we-ing” with aren’t even like officially together. cuz then ya wanna be like okay, does he know that you guys are a “we?” or are you just a you that wants to be a we so badly that youre acting like a we to everyone else but him? hmmm…
and the funny thing is, to make them sound like even more of an old fart couple, usually the verb of the "we" sentence is something lame like furniture shopping or knitting a fucking sweater or something.
don't get me wrong. i love hanging out with marty, but i just feel like a different kind of girlfriend than i used to be.. i'm a lot more laid back and A LOT less clingy. i dunno, everything else aside, i see him as my cool as shit best friend/companion rather than my "other half." i'm my own other half. one half lindsay + one half lindsay = one whole lindsay.
i really hate it when i ask someone what they've been up to, and they're like "oh me and (insert boyfriend's name here) have been doing this and that." well i didnt ask what (insert boyfriend's name here) has been doing, i asked what you've been doing. if you and boyfriend just got back from the beach or are panning a wedding or something, i can see that, but usually it's stuff that boyfriends and girlfriends normally do together, so what have you been doing on your own? what are your hobbies besides hanging out with him and/or waiting for him to get home from work?
does anyone get me? hanging out with your boyfriend 24/7 isn't really what bothers me so much.. i guess it's the "we" thing. you are not always a we. you are a we in certain contexts, but when i ask what you are doing, you are a you, and i only wanna know about you. if i ask what you plus one or more people are doing, feel free to respond with we at that time.