trust is a word all lovers know...
Trust is a difficult thing. You lose it when you find out Santa isn't real. You lose it when your brother rats you out. You lose it when a friend tells one of your secrets. You lose it when a lover is unfaithful. You lose it when a friend is unfaithful. You lose it when your lover is unfaithful with your friend. When is trust regained? Sometimes never. Some people put their trust in people immediately and have no reservations whatsoever. I've never been able to do that. More often than not I put my guard up and keep it there. Why? Because it's better to keep the trust you have (no matter how little) than to risk it dissolving and ultimately becoming lost. Of course there are people I let my guard down for. They know who they are because it's pretty obvious when I trust someone. Still there are times when I put my guard up with my very best friends, though that rarely ever happens. There are times though that trust is rather necessary, such as love. Notice I do not say relationships because relationships are instant once labeled whereas depth and trust are not. A loving relationship does thrive on trust. The breakdown of trust, by means of paranoia or the partner's breaking of the trust, inevitably leads to a breakdown in the relationship. Loss of love starts often with loss of breaking of trust. When you love someone, you put yourself at risk. The walls are down. You're completely naked and unmasked. Trust breeds trust. One person proving trust is worth being vulnerable can help you regain trust for another. Trust must be earned. It's not instant. You can gain so much or lose everything with it. Pick and choose wisely. My trust has been shattered before by all the things listed at the beginning. In most cases I bounced back all right. In the last case I did not. I don't need to go into detail. The point is that I'm a bit paranoid about trust, but I have reason to be. I've got reasons, yet I do still trust. I believe in the people I currently trust. Love breeds trust. Trust breeds trust.