I encourage you all to check out the below link. If you haven't figured out which 4 letter personality you are, do it. And if you have, read the information on the page. I learned a lot of about Todd's and my personality type today. In the article "Care and Feeding of a Rational Mate" I learned how to connect to my Rational boyfriend.
http://www.personalityzone.com/group/love-zone/ I'm an Idealist Teacher (ENFJ) with Guardian Provider (ESFJ) qualities. I'd say I was 80% ENFJ and 20% ESFJ.
Anyways, the articles were insightful and spot on.