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i don't have much time to write, im about to take off. but i have to get this down before i forget or lose my courage.
since when did being a true friend and good person mean being so pathetically nice? it is at times like these that i appreciate honest people, like tesia. not that i don't value tact. you definitely need a little dose of that in your dialogue. however, i am extremely disgusted with everyone being scared to hold friends accountable. if you don't, who will? their enemies sure won't. and i don't mean that it's cool to point out every mistake and negative trait of someone. that is not your job, you are not the Judge. but isn't it written in the bible that if you see danger coming and you don't warn the others then you're at fault? even if they don't listen to you and refuse your advice, it's important to warn them so that you maintain your own integrity.
but every time someone does or says or writes something that is clearly a sin or maybe just a poor decision, and then i or someone else points it out in even the most tactful way...i hate when someone else comes along and says that we're bad friends or insensitive. "that's not what she needs to hear right now"... no, love can be harsh. maybe that is what she needs to hear so that she doesn't fall into that trap and get her heart broken again (or whatever the situation might be).
now i admit that i usually am the pessimistic one who notices the bad before the good. and i admit that i usually am that person who offers their opinion/warning rather than spits out meaningless words that the other person wants to hear. maybe i should work on holding my tongue. maybe i should work on tact. idk. but i just know that it makes me sad that all this fakeness and butt-kissing and cliche encouragement gets written off as compassion, sympathy, and loyalty. crap, i tell you.
if you really love someone, give them your shoulder to cry on. but then, if you know that it will only happen again, save them. don't let them go on thinking that what they did was right or they're only going to hurt themselves again. it's our responsibility as christians (or else no one would ever hear the gospel. we'd all go along thinking we're sinless and simply the victims...) say what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.
ok, now i promise to be a little more tactful if you promise to be a little more honest.
"And I'm sorry that
I'm getting on your case,
but true friends
they stab you in the face."
[k]
since when did being a true friend and good person mean being so pathetically nice? it is at times like these that i appreciate honest people, like tesia. not that i don't value tact. you definitely need a little dose of that in your dialogue. however, i am extremely disgusted with everyone being scared to hold friends accountable. if you don't, who will? their enemies sure won't. and i don't mean that it's cool to point out every mistake and negative trait of someone. that is not your job, you are not the Judge. but isn't it written in the bible that if you see danger coming and you don't warn the others then you're at fault? even if they don't listen to you and refuse your advice, it's important to warn them so that you maintain your own integrity.
but every time someone does or says or writes something that is clearly a sin or maybe just a poor decision, and then i or someone else points it out in even the most tactful way...i hate when someone else comes along and says that we're bad friends or insensitive. "that's not what she needs to hear right now"... no, love can be harsh. maybe that is what she needs to hear so that she doesn't fall into that trap and get her heart broken again (or whatever the situation might be).
now i admit that i usually am the pessimistic one who notices the bad before the good. and i admit that i usually am that person who offers their opinion/warning rather than spits out meaningless words that the other person wants to hear. maybe i should work on holding my tongue. maybe i should work on tact. idk. but i just know that it makes me sad that all this fakeness and butt-kissing and cliche encouragement gets written off as compassion, sympathy, and loyalty. crap, i tell you.
if you really love someone, give them your shoulder to cry on. but then, if you know that it will only happen again, save them. don't let them go on thinking that what they did was right or they're only going to hurt themselves again. it's our responsibility as christians (or else no one would ever hear the gospel. we'd all go along thinking we're sinless and simply the victims...) say what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.
ok, now i promise to be a little more tactful if you promise to be a little more honest.
"And I'm sorry that
I'm getting on your case,
but true friends
they stab you in the face."
[k]