The Wedding: PLEASE READ
I know everyone is frustrated with the short notice of this event. I also know that there has been a lot of tension between a number of people because of this event...and a great deal of hostility due to clashing opinions. But I ask you all to let it go. Right now.
This is a hand fasting. It is a Pagan ritual...and the energy and emotions you bring to this service will be what you bring and offer to Amber and William. And whether you believe that or not...whether you are spiritual or religious or not...Amber is. And the best thing you can do as her friend is respect that and bring to this event your love and caring for Amber and your sincerest hope for her best. If you come angry and irritated...or show hostility towards anyone there, it will be very disrespectful to all of us.
I also know that MANY of you do not agree with Amber. And you feel she is rushing into things. In that case all I can tell you is the story of my own father. My father married his high school sweetheart after a long engagement. They where married in the Catholic Church, with the Catholic mass...the whole nine yards. And they divorced shortly there after.
YOU CAN NEVER TELL who will make it and who will not. But Amber and William have accepted to dedicate themselves to one another. And both of them know, even if only in the smallest sense, the consequences of that. And it is a risk that they deem worth taking. At this point, she knows full well all of your thoughts on that matter. And you MUST admit, she has taken it all with a smile. More so than I think any of us would have where the roles reversed.
I know another concern has been the short notice. And I admit, more notice would have made things easier, but I ask you to simply take it in stride. Amber has worked so hard to pull this together...to make her wedding beautiful...because in the end it is that. HER WEDDING. It is for her and William...not us. That we can attend, or have the opportunity to attend, is an honor and privilege...but not a right. So I ask you not to treat it as one. Think about it. Your friend is getting married. This is Amber. One of the most important friends any of us has. Can you remember all the times you have spent with her? The road trips? The lunches at Bear River? The trips to Denny's? Can you remember the million and one inside jokes each of us has with her? I BEG you not to spoil her wedding, or take away from its value by being upset over sometime as truly trivial as written invitations...or how much notice you did or did not receive.
Again I stress the fact this is a PAGAN RITUAL and AMBER'S WEDDING. And whatever thoughts or emotions you bring into it, are the ones she will walk away and enter her new life with. If you love her, and if you can remember all those memories you have of her...then come to this with an open heart and an open mind. She has only ever offered that to you
This is a hand fasting. It is a Pagan ritual...and the energy and emotions you bring to this service will be what you bring and offer to Amber and William. And whether you believe that or not...whether you are spiritual or religious or not...Amber is. And the best thing you can do as her friend is respect that and bring to this event your love and caring for Amber and your sincerest hope for her best. If you come angry and irritated...or show hostility towards anyone there, it will be very disrespectful to all of us.
I also know that MANY of you do not agree with Amber. And you feel she is rushing into things. In that case all I can tell you is the story of my own father. My father married his high school sweetheart after a long engagement. They where married in the Catholic Church, with the Catholic mass...the whole nine yards. And they divorced shortly there after.
YOU CAN NEVER TELL who will make it and who will not. But Amber and William have accepted to dedicate themselves to one another. And both of them know, even if only in the smallest sense, the consequences of that. And it is a risk that they deem worth taking. At this point, she knows full well all of your thoughts on that matter. And you MUST admit, she has taken it all with a smile. More so than I think any of us would have where the roles reversed.
I know another concern has been the short notice. And I admit, more notice would have made things easier, but I ask you to simply take it in stride. Amber has worked so hard to pull this together...to make her wedding beautiful...because in the end it is that. HER WEDDING. It is for her and William...not us. That we can attend, or have the opportunity to attend, is an honor and privilege...but not a right. So I ask you not to treat it as one. Think about it. Your friend is getting married. This is Amber. One of the most important friends any of us has. Can you remember all the times you have spent with her? The road trips? The lunches at Bear River? The trips to Denny's? Can you remember the million and one inside jokes each of us has with her? I BEG you not to spoil her wedding, or take away from its value by being upset over sometime as truly trivial as written invitations...or how much notice you did or did not receive.
Again I stress the fact this is a PAGAN RITUAL and AMBER'S WEDDING. And whatever thoughts or emotions you bring into it, are the ones she will walk away and enter her new life with. If you love her, and if you can remember all those memories you have of her...then come to this with an open heart and an open mind. She has only ever offered that to you