He's Just Not That Into Me...
I'm watching that movie "He's Just Not That Into You". Yeah, yeah, chick flick and all. I've never seen it, but there's one part that kind of hit home for me.
Jennifer Aniston's character asks Ben Affleck's character if he's ever going to ask her to marry him. He hesitates, of course, and doesn't say anything, which prompts her to accept her reality in that she's not getting married (after being with this guy for seven years). A guy will date a girl for awhile, only to break up with her, then marry the next girl he meets. No transistion period, nothing. That kind of happened to me: I was dating a guy and while I didn't want to scare him away by being too clingy, I told him that marriage wasn't an issue for me yet (same for him). I thought he was cool with that, or so I thought. Turns out, he found the one he wanted to while he was still dating me, and broke up with me (he did mention the other girl). Talk about feeling less than zero. So...
Bradley Cooper's character tells Scarlet Johanson's character the thing about guys and marriage; in his case, he married his wife (Jennifer Connelly) only because she gave him an ultimatum--if he doesn't marry her, they'll break up. So he says that guys are jerks that string their girlfriends along for years or they're jerks for marrying them too soon and then things don't work out.
Maybe I shouldn't be watching this movie. I hate movies like this actually; are we as women really like this? Are we really out there trying to find that One? Is marriage really the only thing we're after? Honestly, I could not care less if I ever got married, and maybe it's because I already have been; maybe it's different for those who've never been married. It's bad enough that society and the media--and movies like this that tell us we'll never be fulfilled or find true happiness unless we walk down that aisle. I am at a point in my life now where it doesn't matter I guess. I'm supposedly (according to Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and whatever) past my prime. Prime of what, I don't know...
mating, I guess.
Sheesh. That's a whole other can of worms.