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On a completely out of character note, I'm always curious to explore various topics. I was thinking of putting up a few posts to see if people would be interested in sharing in these discussions/and our put in their two cents. I will merely present a topic and from there, we discuss. There is no right or wrong answers. Just as a someone still
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In the case of Storybuilding specifically, staff is involved, and receives notification at every step along the way. That is the big difference between 'Storybuilding' and 'just talking it out like adults'.
Of course, even reasonable adults can differ on what constitutes reasonable communication, including what is an acceptable style of argument. I used to have my +trouble set to the same number yours is, until the day I attempted to 'thoroughly negotiate trouble first' and was shut out by somebody who apparently felt this to be unnecessary, disruptive to a scene, or otherwise inappropriate. Now maybe my method of communication was not perceived as reasonable - it's actually possible that I was *not* being reasonable, given things like involuntarily adrenaline effects. However the end result was that I became even more guarded about engaging in Trouble, and set my +trouble meter to represent that.
And you know what? I'll bet every single person involved felt they were being reasonable. I'm further willing to bet that everyone involved felt entirely justified in their position, and no doubt from each party's perspective, they *were*. This is why...Storybuilding. I think. It gives a (presumably) objective 3rd party the chance to say "Hey now, wait, this isn't productive" or "I think it would be useful to do X" and "Have you considered that alternative" and so on.
But ...it does cost. AND I've still never seen anybody use it.
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As for what is and isn't reasonable, I would suggest just a couple things: 1) take a deep breath and remember above anything else... this is a game. A collaborative one where we're here to have fun. So nothing that is done is 'permanent'. 2) That said, I would suggest a compromise. Reasonable is different for each person, but sometimes you just need a really good compromise. It is the the "my way or the highway," that usually makes me cringe. It is up there with mom going "just cause..." 3) Never fear, you'r friends are here, Darling. When you are in such a situation. Don't be afraid to get advice. People have been really supportive, that I've seen, on RTA. You just need to poke someone and go "egads! I'm not sure what to do here... help!!"
Now that said, these are merely suggestions. We always find our own way of dealing with matters, and it isn't the same for everyone. Just remember, you're not alone. We're all here for fun and games.
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