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[liliaeth]

You know, I was thinking. Am I the only person that doesn't think that romantic pairings are the most important bonds people can have?

For example, I was asking for recs on spnstoryfinders earlier and I realized that my biggest problem is that even though I love Dean/Castiel, that Castiel is actually third in my list of favorite spn chars, after Sam

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[corbyinoz]

Oh, lord, yes. I couldn't agree more. I find the privileging of 'romance' above all other bonds very tiresome. Came up against that in Stargate fandom, where the newly imposed Samantha/Jack romance was suddenly more important than the friendship (or slash r'ship) between Jack and Daniel, which was the basis of the film and the core relationship in the first three seasons. Suddenly that relationship was devalued (in fact, even deconstructed) and it was all mooney-eyed looks from a professional female soldier who should know better. It was even allowed to interfere in the field. What was most saddening was this notion that the strong friendship with a male couldn't continue while the other male was in a 'romantic' relationship with a female (as grotesque as it was).

I don't read or write Sam/Dean slash because psychologically I just can't make it work. Dean was in loco parentis for so long, there are massive power abuse issues, just for starters. Then I agree, too, about Dean and sex. Or rather, Dean and intimacy. I don't go much for Dean/Castiel because I find Cas more interesting as a character when he is more unearthly, otherworldly, however you want to phrase it. So although I can see Cas as being fascinated, maybe even enamoured, by Dean, I can't see them consummating it. I don't even think Castiel would want to. Again, the psychology of it doesn't work for me.

[liliaeth]

Very very true. I think one of the main reasons I get bored with some fandoms. (not necesserily the show it's based on, but the fanfic) is that the focus is so strongly on romantic/sexual pairings, that I just ... lose interest.