long and not so pretty...
tasha, you're gonna yell at me if you ever read this. and hell, i can totally see people taking this wrong. but as rachel and reggie say, oh well. lol, they say it more colorfully, but you get it. here we go...
let's start with this quote: If you aint no kin to me or friend to me, bitch don't pretend to be. such truth there. my parents used to tell me all the time that blood is thicker than water. and i never got it until i got to college. as you get older, you realize how important true family really is. family is what you rely on to support you no matter what. family provides love even at your ugliest moments. family answers the phone at 4 am. you also realize that good friends ARE family. they drive 4 hours because you called crying. they give you a place to stay even though they only have a one bedroom apartment. they still love you even though you wear those "cool" shoes you love. family knows your weaknesses, and yes, sometimes family pokes fun at you. you know why? because they know you'll forgive and forget. and they know that you do it from time to time. it's not abusive, it's family.
now. all your friends are not family. sometimes they don't know that they aren't family. in fact, YOU may not notice until they do or say something that from someone else (as in true family) wouldn't bother you, but when they do it, it rubs you the wrong way. an example...me and some of my friends crack jokes about being house slaves versus field slaves. one of my white friends commented, "what's the difference, a slave is a slave...you're all only partial people." and we laughed. know why? she's family. a slightly less controversial example...one of my good friends told me that if she's going to live with me, she has to get her alcohol tolerance up cuz it's common knowledge that i'm a lush. i laughed. in another instance, a girl who's a member of an organization i'm in called me an alcoholic and my first thought was "who are you talking to? you don't know me like that to say that."i didn't know that she wasn't family until that moment. and she apparently didn't know at all.
what's the point of all that? i'm not sure. maybe i'm saying that you can't force people to be family. maybe i'm saying to be careful what you say to people because you don't know how they'll take what you're saying. or maybe i'm just saying that everyone can't be your family. it's just something i was thinking about.
hey, this paragraph won't make sense, but i want to say it, so just skip ahead to the next one. saying "i love you" doesn't mean a DAMN thing. words are empty without actions. don't give me this bullshit about love. and before you say anything about being disrespected, be VERY VERY careful to make sure that YOU have been respectful. and before you blame people for situations that have gotten out of hand, make sure that you have done all that you can to try to rectify it. things to keep in mind. and oh yeah, there's a difference between attacking someone and trying to offer help or advice or an opinion. there's a difference between plotting behind someone's back and asking other people for advice on how to proceed with a difficult topic or even just asking if they've noticed something that you noticed. and martyring yourself doesn't always get sympathy. sometimes it just looks pathetic and tedious. and don't leave any comments regarding this paragraph. it's not about any one person or anything like that. lol, i bet you think this song is about you don't you, don't you? moving on :)
i'm so happy classes are over...i've had time to spend with reggie. we're both more relaxed. but at the same time, i miss the girls who i've grown so close to in the last few months...online conversations aren't good enough and i'm pumped because rachel and i are going to live together. that's such a burden off of my shoulders. my rent will go from 500 to 280. i can work less and focus more on school (my grades really suffered this last semester). not to mention i'll be more flexible for sorority stuff. that was a problem for me last semester and i'm glad it won't be now. i have a good paying job. i have wonderful family. so i'm really quite content right now. the only thing i could ask for is like 1000 bucks to make rent go away for a little while lol. now. i'm going to go take a nap since i definitely worked at 7 this morning and was definately up last night playing a hot game of spades (we were cheated honey).
let's start with this quote: If you aint no kin to me or friend to me, bitch don't pretend to be. such truth there. my parents used to tell me all the time that blood is thicker than water. and i never got it until i got to college. as you get older, you realize how important true family really is. family is what you rely on to support you no matter what. family provides love even at your ugliest moments. family answers the phone at 4 am. you also realize that good friends ARE family. they drive 4 hours because you called crying. they give you a place to stay even though they only have a one bedroom apartment. they still love you even though you wear those "cool" shoes you love. family knows your weaknesses, and yes, sometimes family pokes fun at you. you know why? because they know you'll forgive and forget. and they know that you do it from time to time. it's not abusive, it's family.
now. all your friends are not family. sometimes they don't know that they aren't family. in fact, YOU may not notice until they do or say something that from someone else (as in true family) wouldn't bother you, but when they do it, it rubs you the wrong way. an example...me and some of my friends crack jokes about being house slaves versus field slaves. one of my white friends commented, "what's the difference, a slave is a slave...you're all only partial people." and we laughed. know why? she's family. a slightly less controversial example...one of my good friends told me that if she's going to live with me, she has to get her alcohol tolerance up cuz it's common knowledge that i'm a lush. i laughed. in another instance, a girl who's a member of an organization i'm in called me an alcoholic and my first thought was "who are you talking to? you don't know me like that to say that."i didn't know that she wasn't family until that moment. and she apparently didn't know at all.
what's the point of all that? i'm not sure. maybe i'm saying that you can't force people to be family. maybe i'm saying to be careful what you say to people because you don't know how they'll take what you're saying. or maybe i'm just saying that everyone can't be your family. it's just something i was thinking about.
hey, this paragraph won't make sense, but i want to say it, so just skip ahead to the next one. saying "i love you" doesn't mean a DAMN thing. words are empty without actions. don't give me this bullshit about love. and before you say anything about being disrespected, be VERY VERY careful to make sure that YOU have been respectful. and before you blame people for situations that have gotten out of hand, make sure that you have done all that you can to try to rectify it. things to keep in mind. and oh yeah, there's a difference between attacking someone and trying to offer help or advice or an opinion. there's a difference between plotting behind someone's back and asking other people for advice on how to proceed with a difficult topic or even just asking if they've noticed something that you noticed. and martyring yourself doesn't always get sympathy. sometimes it just looks pathetic and tedious. and don't leave any comments regarding this paragraph. it's not about any one person or anything like that. lol, i bet you think this song is about you don't you, don't you? moving on :)
i'm so happy classes are over...i've had time to spend with reggie. we're both more relaxed. but at the same time, i miss the girls who i've grown so close to in the last few months...online conversations aren't good enough and i'm pumped because rachel and i are going to live together. that's such a burden off of my shoulders. my rent will go from 500 to 280. i can work less and focus more on school (my grades really suffered this last semester). not to mention i'll be more flexible for sorority stuff. that was a problem for me last semester and i'm glad it won't be now. i have a good paying job. i have wonderful family. so i'm really quite content right now. the only thing i could ask for is like 1000 bucks to make rent go away for a little while lol. now. i'm going to go take a nap since i definitely worked at 7 this morning and was definately up last night playing a hot game of spades (we were cheated honey).