i'll never wake up knowing how or why....
after spending the last couple of weeks taking care of mike and his sinus infection + bronchitis, i have finally fallen ill with i don't know what. achey body, nasty cough... no fever though. now it's his turn to take care of me and answer to every one of my requests. he came over last night with orange juice, cough medicine and all the hugs and kisses i could ever want.
we got into a pretty serious discussion as we layed in bed.
The Topic: The Future
we've only been dating for a little over a month and a half, but i'm almost 23, we're both student teaching next semester, we're both going to be graduating in december, and we were both under the impression that this relationship was going to last after all that. so obviously we talked about what we wanted in the future.
The Problem: Children
we had talked about children before. he made it clear that he didn't want any and never will. at first it bothered me because obviously i wanted children, but i tried to convince myself that it would be ok if i didn't have kids. i really tried to tell myself that it would ok to just be the cool aunt... i kept telling myself that it was no big deal.
His Reasoning:
i really needed to know why he didn't want kids... and these were his reasons...
1. they're way too expensive
2. they change your entire life... for the worse
3. there will be no more alone time
4. no sex life
5. if we wanted to just pack up and leave for a vacation for a month... can't do that with kids
6. can't have our artwork all over the house because the kids might break it
7. can't work on our art
8. kids throw tantrums and hate their parents
honestly this talk kinda put a strain on things. i couldn't keep lying to myself. I WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN ONE DAY. i don't know what the hell is going to happen now. and i'm really worried. the reson mike and his last girlfriend broke up was because she eventually wanted to have kids... and he didn't. ugh. i'll keep you posted.
we got into a pretty serious discussion as we layed in bed.
The Topic: The Future
we've only been dating for a little over a month and a half, but i'm almost 23, we're both student teaching next semester, we're both going to be graduating in december, and we were both under the impression that this relationship was going to last after all that. so obviously we talked about what we wanted in the future.
The Problem: Children
we had talked about children before. he made it clear that he didn't want any and never will. at first it bothered me because obviously i wanted children, but i tried to convince myself that it would be ok if i didn't have kids. i really tried to tell myself that it would ok to just be the cool aunt... i kept telling myself that it was no big deal.
His Reasoning:
i really needed to know why he didn't want kids... and these were his reasons...
1. they're way too expensive
2. they change your entire life... for the worse
3. there will be no more alone time
4. no sex life
5. if we wanted to just pack up and leave for a vacation for a month... can't do that with kids
6. can't have our artwork all over the house because the kids might break it
7. can't work on our art
8. kids throw tantrums and hate their parents
honestly this talk kinda put a strain on things. i couldn't keep lying to myself. I WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN ONE DAY. i don't know what the hell is going to happen now. and i'm really worried. the reson mike and his last girlfriend broke up was because she eventually wanted to have kids... and he didn't. ugh. i'll keep you posted.