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[lilangelgurl011]

So Don and I have been talking for a while about me starting to work full time and him starting school and working and both of us saving up some money so we can get a place of our own. Well I guess Brian wants to move too. So Don's wanting to get like a 2 bedroom place for me, him, and Brian.... Which at first I was like what I really want is just

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"In-Laws" / "To be in-laws"

[bey0ndthesmile]

Tough stuff! Adrian's parents (along with his sister) and I run into road blocks--and with my opinionated attitude, and their attitude I can't even come up with a name for it can be a very sticky situation. They say the number one reason for divorice in the first year of marriage is in-law related. Adrian and I have a really strong relationship, so when his parents drive me nutz we talk about it and get past it. Have you talked to her about how the things she says bother you? Like here's two ideas:
1. When she says something that bothers you be assertive;For example:
In-Law: "You really think you guys can make it on your own?"
You (in a calm non-offensive voice): What I'm gathering from your tone is that your don't feel as though your Son and I can succeed on our own. When you say things like that it really discourages me and hurts my feelings. I would really like your support as I'm sure Don would too, are you willing to give us your support?, because if not, I don't think Don and I will feel as comfortable being open with you about our future plans."
If she says yes, that she is willing to give her support, tell her thank you and it really means a lot to you. I she says no or has a sarcastic remark reply with, "From what you're saying I gather that you're not willing to give us your support?--break it down until you get a serious reply. I highlly dobht that she dosen't want to support you though.
Hope that helps!! Peaches, Sara

Oh P.S. Option 2: Run away to Mexico :o)

Re: "In-Laws" / "To be in-laws"

[lilangelgurl011]

I haven't said anything to her about it, but Don talked to her about it and she got all pissed off and started yelling at him... and now she's trying to get him to pay a bunch of her bills with the little money he does have and its just crap... I won't say anything cuz I'm there so much that i dont' want to cause any problems and she's the kind of person that thinks the worlds out to get her and wants everyone to think that so she over exagerates things that happen when she tells people... SO if i said something to her she'd flip and completely flip it around.... like say i cussed her out and pushed her and told her I hated her or something... Like one time Don and her got in an argument about something stupid and so people would side with her she went and told everyone that he hit her.... it was sooo stupid... so I just kinda bitch to my mom about it and try to ignore her...