Oxen concept
I read a journal entry from last year in the midst of breakdowns I was having almost weekly... And a friend said, "the worst thing you can do is tie yourself down before you (figure out what?)..." it trails off. Something about the Will of God. Or, within the framework of the conversation, it seemed to be more a matter of clarity. That said, I feel like the lostclarity is what froze me. Before that it was doubt. I will never again allow myself to stay close friends with, date, or associate myself with those who expect me to be "reasonable." I've known for a long time that it was necessary to associate with those you intend to be the "average" of, so-to-speak, but as you grow they may change. After all, that is the outcome. I'm aware that it's time to top grade. Again. It means I'm growing.
This same friend said after he heard my white board dream weaving rants of 2012, he used the term "drop of water" to describe how I see myself without saying it. A small drop of water causing a ripple, then a hurricane. If it's business I'm called to, I'm clearing my plate of distractions, bucking up, and will continure to be the CEO until I can hire my CEO. I know what not to do now, and more importantly what to do/who needs to be involved. He said something sobering too... that what I mapped out was actually role of a strong wife. Matriarch of a company in this context. *gulp* I had mapped out the role of a wife; and translated that energy into building a business with the heart, soul, and guts of companies like Zappos, Southwest, Keller Williams International, and systems like McDonalds and Disney.
Time to get comfortable being uncomfortable in building business.
That brings up dating (not my first post on the matter, I am well aware). I've had for the longest time and thought I knew the answer to (at one time) regarding what I wanted. This can be a lonely road, and even more lonely when you feel like you're surrounded by those that don't "get you" and dating is tough when I wear pants. Recognizing only recently that I don't have to wear "the" pants, and thought I simply had to. It's not my intent. There are a lot of parrallels between business and dating.
In business, I've come to realize:
The leader needs to have bigger vision than the team members they work with.
The leader can be an "8" but hire a "10" in talent/role.
In relationships, I've come to think for myself (not 100%, kicking it around):
- The guy needs bigger vision than myself (big professional and gigantic lifestyle vision) who can steer the ship
- I'm happy to be a "neck that turns the head" Rockstar for the greater mission with the heart and compassion to lead thousands or a small family
I'm not looking for a man to "save me," I can save myself, so whoever is reading this... Understand the oxen concepts: Unevenly yoked, you don't go anywhere; and if you have two oxen that can pull 10,000# on their own, they'll pull 35,000# together.
This same friend said after he heard my white board dream weaving rants of 2012, he used the term "drop of water" to describe how I see myself without saying it. A small drop of water causing a ripple, then a hurricane. If it's business I'm called to, I'm clearing my plate of distractions, bucking up, and will continure to be the CEO until I can hire my CEO. I know what not to do now, and more importantly what to do/who needs to be involved. He said something sobering too... that what I mapped out was actually role of a strong wife. Matriarch of a company in this context. *gulp* I had mapped out the role of a wife; and translated that energy into building a business with the heart, soul, and guts of companies like Zappos, Southwest, Keller Williams International, and systems like McDonalds and Disney.
Time to get comfortable being uncomfortable in building business.
That brings up dating (not my first post on the matter, I am well aware). I've had for the longest time and thought I knew the answer to (at one time) regarding what I wanted. This can be a lonely road, and even more lonely when you feel like you're surrounded by those that don't "get you" and dating is tough when I wear pants. Recognizing only recently that I don't have to wear "the" pants, and thought I simply had to. It's not my intent. There are a lot of parrallels between business and dating.
In business, I've come to realize:
The leader needs to have bigger vision than the team members they work with.
The leader can be an "8" but hire a "10" in talent/role.
In relationships, I've come to think for myself (not 100%, kicking it around):
- The guy needs bigger vision than myself (big professional and gigantic lifestyle vision) who can steer the ship
- I'm happy to be a "neck that turns the head" Rockstar for the greater mission with the heart and compassion to lead thousands or a small family
I'm not looking for a man to "save me," I can save myself, so whoever is reading this... Understand the oxen concepts: Unevenly yoked, you don't go anywhere; and if you have two oxen that can pull 10,000# on their own, they'll pull 35,000# together.