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This is to let you know that I'm still alive. I just haven't had anything I particularly wanted to post on here.
I might as well admit it now...during break I got bored and lonely, and signed up for the free trial on match.com (you can stop judging now). The trial only lasts 3 days, and in that time I managed to find 3 guys who were decent enough to talk to for a bit.
Last night, I went out with one of them (he made fun of me for only getting one date out of the process-but hey for 3 days of trying, that's not so bad...and I could possibly get 2 more). We went to Wally's Jazz Cafe, which is kind of a hole in the wall place. The date went okay, he looked more or less like his picture, and we got along well enough. I don't know if anything will come of it, and I wouldn't be too excited or disappointed either way. In other words, I didn't fall for him on the first date, but I also didn't decide that I wouldn't try a second date.
Through the ups and downs of the last couple of weeks (I've been on a personal emotional roller coaster, through no fault of any third person...everything has been in my head) I've come to a bit of a realization: I don't really like dating. I mean dates are fun, but maybe it's because of this whole blind date thing, but it was nothing like spending time with someone you already know you like. I didn't have any butterflies in my stomach, no anxious excitement that you're finally out with a crush. I know the point of online dating, but it seems more like a simple means to an end (the end being finding someone to have a relationship with), and there's not much enjoyment in the process. Granted, it is flattering for people to ask you out-regardless of the circumstances.
In the words of Carrie from Sex in the City where is the "za za zu?" I don't particularly enjoy being single-but I don't think I like "dating around" either. I miss how dating worked in high school (oddly enough). You like someone, and you secretly crush on them, swearing everyone to not let him (or her) know. Then it comes out they like you too. So what happens next? You may go on a date or something, but really once it's established that the two of you like each other, you jump into a relationship. Let's face it, it was usually a friend anyways-there was no need to do the "getting to know you" dating stage. I guess my last few relationships occurred in quite the same manner-except that they ended up being long distance. I think that's my MO-immediate attraction to another person that snowballs into a relationship. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I think you can have that kind of connection and chemisty at first sight that makes you willing to jump and take the risk of being involved with someone. If this dating thing has taught me anything-I realize how I prefer my love life to be, but unfortunately it relies quite a bit on chance.
Like I said, my date was okay. The music was good, the company was decent, but I was a bit distracted. Okay, that's my life in a nutshell. Oh, and to make up for this long, rather boring entry...the next shall have pictures of ski trip and my birthday weekends. =)
I might as well admit it now...during break I got bored and lonely, and signed up for the free trial on match.com (you can stop judging now). The trial only lasts 3 days, and in that time I managed to find 3 guys who were decent enough to talk to for a bit.
Last night, I went out with one of them (he made fun of me for only getting one date out of the process-but hey for 3 days of trying, that's not so bad...and I could possibly get 2 more). We went to Wally's Jazz Cafe, which is kind of a hole in the wall place. The date went okay, he looked more or less like his picture, and we got along well enough. I don't know if anything will come of it, and I wouldn't be too excited or disappointed either way. In other words, I didn't fall for him on the first date, but I also didn't decide that I wouldn't try a second date.
Through the ups and downs of the last couple of weeks (I've been on a personal emotional roller coaster, through no fault of any third person...everything has been in my head) I've come to a bit of a realization: I don't really like dating. I mean dates are fun, but maybe it's because of this whole blind date thing, but it was nothing like spending time with someone you already know you like. I didn't have any butterflies in my stomach, no anxious excitement that you're finally out with a crush. I know the point of online dating, but it seems more like a simple means to an end (the end being finding someone to have a relationship with), and there's not much enjoyment in the process. Granted, it is flattering for people to ask you out-regardless of the circumstances.
In the words of Carrie from Sex in the City where is the "za za zu?" I don't particularly enjoy being single-but I don't think I like "dating around" either. I miss how dating worked in high school (oddly enough). You like someone, and you secretly crush on them, swearing everyone to not let him (or her) know. Then it comes out they like you too. So what happens next? You may go on a date or something, but really once it's established that the two of you like each other, you jump into a relationship. Let's face it, it was usually a friend anyways-there was no need to do the "getting to know you" dating stage. I guess my last few relationships occurred in quite the same manner-except that they ended up being long distance. I think that's my MO-immediate attraction to another person that snowballs into a relationship. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I think you can have that kind of connection and chemisty at first sight that makes you willing to jump and take the risk of being involved with someone. If this dating thing has taught me anything-I realize how I prefer my love life to be, but unfortunately it relies quite a bit on chance.
Like I said, my date was okay. The music was good, the company was decent, but I was a bit distracted. Okay, that's my life in a nutshell. Oh, and to make up for this long, rather boring entry...the next shall have pictures of ski trip and my birthday weekends. =)