love and other catastrophes
what function does it serve for someone you've started dating to tell you that they've been engaged before?
is it like, "you're cool, but there's still this person that was cooler. even though they cheated on me, i still idealize them."
i've dated two people like this. i know everyone has their relationship baggage, and obviously your engagement didn't work out because here you are, but are you really allowed to idealize it above all your other relationships?
not having been engaged, i really don't understand. sure, it's great that you loved this person and wanted to marry them. but in my mind, once they cheat on you and break your heart, that's it. who the fuck cares what they are doing with their lives?
maybe it's embarassing that you were calling this person "the one" and it turns out that they suck the big one. maybe idealizing them helps you save face.
but don't tell me. hearing about how they cheated on you makes me want to kill them, because your memory of their shittiness cancels out the fact that i would never cheat. hearing you say that you might get back together with someone who cheated on you makes me think you're stupid.
is it like, "you're cool, but there's still this person that was cooler. even though they cheated on me, i still idealize them."
i've dated two people like this. i know everyone has their relationship baggage, and obviously your engagement didn't work out because here you are, but are you really allowed to idealize it above all your other relationships?
not having been engaged, i really don't understand. sure, it's great that you loved this person and wanted to marry them. but in my mind, once they cheat on you and break your heart, that's it. who the fuck cares what they are doing with their lives?
maybe it's embarassing that you were calling this person "the one" and it turns out that they suck the big one. maybe idealizing them helps you save face.
but don't tell me. hearing about how they cheated on you makes me want to kill them, because your memory of their shittiness cancels out the fact that i would never cheat. hearing you say that you might get back together with someone who cheated on you makes me think you're stupid.