Okay, FINE. Here it is: my tutorial on how to make “out there” kinks believable,
as requested. The starting point for this tutorial is that you want to write a kink/fetish in a realistic fashion; otherwise you are writing crack!fic, and all power to you, but I can’t help there because my crack!fic-fu is weak. :) Just so you know, this essay de facto discusses sexuality very graphically, and also gets spoilery about a few of my own fic. Just so you know.
As for kink, my credentials are notorious: #