Penultimatum
I don't know about most daughter/mother relationships, but my mom is always worried about how happy I am. I really don't know how she thinks sometimes, but it nice to know that she 'worries' about how happy she thinks I should be.
Well I'm happy! I'm very happy with the way that my life is right now, but she doesn't think so. Which brings me to the 'ultimatum'. This happened just before New Years Eve. We were just about to head out the door to go to a friends house (whose fiancee makes GREAT martinis) and she tells me that she doesn't think that I'm happy enough and that 'I would like you to try harder at finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. I'm giving you a year to find yourself a husband'. WHAT????? I howled with laughter at the sheer thought of it! So we head off to the party and I'm twittering to myself so of course it comes up again. There were three couples there and then mom and I. One couple who were in their mid 30s had just had their second child, and hadn't met until they were 31-ish... I kept getting the 'so what kind of guys DO you like?' questions, 'does he have to be musically inclined?', 'How tall?' or 'What religion would you prefer'.... Well of course I have my preference and what I would like, but I'm not going to adher to a strict list of qualities that I want in someone! Isn't that the sure fire way of NOT finding someone?
What if the 'one' doesn't exist? What is the concept of love? A lot of people just tell me that you're not destined to meet someone, it just happens, and if you really care about each other you make it work. A relationship is work. The hardest part is finding someone to 'make it work' with.
But honestly, what pushes a parent to say something like this? I have lots of friends who are in serious relationships, but most of them aren't, and most of them are older then I am! Sometimes you are just not destined to meet 'that' person until much later in life, and to the DEVIL if I'm going to settle on someone!
Well I'm happy! I'm very happy with the way that my life is right now, but she doesn't think so. Which brings me to the 'ultimatum'. This happened just before New Years Eve. We were just about to head out the door to go to a friends house (whose fiancee makes GREAT martinis) and she tells me that she doesn't think that I'm happy enough and that 'I would like you to try harder at finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. I'm giving you a year to find yourself a husband'. WHAT????? I howled with laughter at the sheer thought of it! So we head off to the party and I'm twittering to myself so of course it comes up again. There were three couples there and then mom and I. One couple who were in their mid 30s had just had their second child, and hadn't met until they were 31-ish... I kept getting the 'so what kind of guys DO you like?' questions, 'does he have to be musically inclined?', 'How tall?' or 'What religion would you prefer'.... Well of course I have my preference and what I would like, but I'm not going to adher to a strict list of qualities that I want in someone! Isn't that the sure fire way of NOT finding someone?
What if the 'one' doesn't exist? What is the concept of love? A lot of people just tell me that you're not destined to meet someone, it just happens, and if you really care about each other you make it work. A relationship is work. The hardest part is finding someone to 'make it work' with.
But honestly, what pushes a parent to say something like this? I have lots of friends who are in serious relationships, but most of them aren't, and most of them are older then I am! Sometimes you are just not destined to meet 'that' person until much later in life, and to the DEVIL if I'm going to settle on someone!