Managing People and Situations.
There's a particular co-worker who I find infuriating for no better reason than her personality rubs me the wrong way. She's slow where I'm fast, panicked where I slow down, cautious where I blithely dance in, careful of due process when I ignore or circumvent it. I spent the past ten days working with her. One enlightening thing to have occurred has been the change in my relationship with her.
I still find her frustrating. However, about a month ago I determined to look past the clash in our personalities and try to treat her with full respect. She is, however different to me, good at what she does. She earns her respect. Nevertheless I dreaded doing nights with her.
She seemed to sense and respond to my change in attitude toward her. It's pleasant when someone acknowledges your overtures and reciprocates. This happened. It seems to me we both realise we sit cross-wise to each other, but that can be a strength when working together. My approach is technical and instinctive, hers tends toward planned and procedural. We both have our shortcomings, but by working together instead of against one another we are able to compliment.
A situation with a self-harming patient exemplified this. I knew self-harmers and she didn't. The rapport we'd developed in previous days allowed her to come to me and express discomfort, which I could then assuage by offering a course of action and allow without interference because I could trust her to implement it. That's good balance. I like it.
We won't be taking any long hot showers together, but it offers a template for more than this relationship: a way of working people and myself.
I still find her frustrating. However, about a month ago I determined to look past the clash in our personalities and try to treat her with full respect. She is, however different to me, good at what she does. She earns her respect. Nevertheless I dreaded doing nights with her.
She seemed to sense and respond to my change in attitude toward her. It's pleasant when someone acknowledges your overtures and reciprocates. This happened. It seems to me we both realise we sit cross-wise to each other, but that can be a strength when working together. My approach is technical and instinctive, hers tends toward planned and procedural. We both have our shortcomings, but by working together instead of against one another we are able to compliment.
A situation with a self-harming patient exemplified this. I knew self-harmers and she didn't. The rapport we'd developed in previous days allowed her to come to me and express discomfort, which I could then assuage by offering a course of action and allow without interference because I could trust her to implement it. That's good balance. I like it.
We won't be taking any long hot showers together, but it offers a template for more than this relationship: a way of working people and myself.