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Been thinking a lot lately. I know - perfectly natural to do that...
Was wondering about something...
How important in a relationship is it to be with someone that is at the same intellectual level as yourself? I realize that it can make communication harder if you have to explain esoteric concepts to someone who doesn't understand them, but does ( Read more... )
Personally I love people who are smarter than me and/or have more experience. I like learning, and I like people that enjoy it too. I especially like to surround myself with people who make me think.
But in a relationship I think it has as much to do with being able to communicate. Having common interests to discuss, and having the patience and understanding to find ways to discuss them. For instance, S is brilliant but has a terrible time putting thoughts into words. He has such a habit of giving a two word answer as if he's brushing me off, and needing to gently be prodded to clarify further. And I have a habit of worrying, and then pushing, to the point where he feels pushed, which he hates. Yet other times, without pressure, he says the most profound things. And when he is talking about something over my head he's good at patiently explaining it to me.
As to compatibility, I think respect and willingness to give and take and work on things is more important. The best lover I've had is one of the least experienced, and yet the most giving.
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I knew it was you, Rain - the "S" gave it away when I was unsure...
I think you're right - it's more about openness and a willingness to learn than anything else...
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