I'm so friggin mad
Okay I've been stewing on this since Saturday and I still haven't calmed down about so I know I'm going to have to say something - although I'd much rather Brian did it.
I'm sure you all heard me bitch and complain about Andrew and Michelle not coming to the kids birthday party. Incase you don't know the story ... Michelle's brother has twins born on the same day as Jack. Ever since these babies were born Michelles family have carried on about Michelle spending more time with my kids than the twins. Which is not true at all, she hardly sees any of the kids. Anyway, the week before my boys party Brian spoke to Andrew about whether they were coming (as the hadn't RSVPed) and Andrew said something along the lines of "The twins party is the same day so I don't know what we are doing. We probably won't go to any, to save an argument." Needless to say Brian was pretty annoyed about it and said to Andrew not to be so stupid, just make some time to go to both. We didn't hear anything so come the day of the party we assumed that they would turn up sooner or later.
Well surprise, surprise they never showed. Amazing since they live five minutes away and Brian's parents (who have to make a 5 hour round trip). I tried not to let it bother me too much, and it didn't until later that night when Liam said to me "Where's Aunty Shell?" What the hell am I supposed to tell a 3 year old? How do I say that your Aunty and Uncle are assholes and can't spare a few minutes out of their day to wish you a happy birthday. I just told him she was busy and we'd see her soon.
So later that night Brian and I are talking about it and I said to Brian "I can handle the fact that they didn't come to the party, but they'd better at least acknowledge their birthdays." And he agreed. Wednesday was Jack's birthday - Wednesday came and went without a phone call. Saturday was Liam's party - Saturday came and went without a phone call as well.
Seriously how hard is it to make a phone call. I don't care about presents and cards. I know that they are flat broke. Michelle told me herself the week before the party that they couldn't afford presents and they'd just give them $10 in a card each. I said to her "Seriously, don't even worry about the card or the present. The kids won't even notice. They'll just be excited to see you." You think that knowing that the kids would be excited to see them would be incentive enough to make an effort.
I'm soooooo bloody angry. I try so hard not to get involved with any family disputes with them and let Brian handle it since it's his brother. But this time it's different as it involves my children. I just don't know what to do or how to handle it.
I'm sure you all heard me bitch and complain about Andrew and Michelle not coming to the kids birthday party. Incase you don't know the story ... Michelle's brother has twins born on the same day as Jack. Ever since these babies were born Michelles family have carried on about Michelle spending more time with my kids than the twins. Which is not true at all, she hardly sees any of the kids. Anyway, the week before my boys party Brian spoke to Andrew about whether they were coming (as the hadn't RSVPed) and Andrew said something along the lines of "The twins party is the same day so I don't know what we are doing. We probably won't go to any, to save an argument." Needless to say Brian was pretty annoyed about it and said to Andrew not to be so stupid, just make some time to go to both. We didn't hear anything so come the day of the party we assumed that they would turn up sooner or later.
Well surprise, surprise they never showed. Amazing since they live five minutes away and Brian's parents (who have to make a 5 hour round trip). I tried not to let it bother me too much, and it didn't until later that night when Liam said to me "Where's Aunty Shell?" What the hell am I supposed to tell a 3 year old? How do I say that your Aunty and Uncle are assholes and can't spare a few minutes out of their day to wish you a happy birthday. I just told him she was busy and we'd see her soon.
So later that night Brian and I are talking about it and I said to Brian "I can handle the fact that they didn't come to the party, but they'd better at least acknowledge their birthdays." And he agreed. Wednesday was Jack's birthday - Wednesday came and went without a phone call. Saturday was Liam's party - Saturday came and went without a phone call as well.
Seriously how hard is it to make a phone call. I don't care about presents and cards. I know that they are flat broke. Michelle told me herself the week before the party that they couldn't afford presents and they'd just give them $10 in a card each. I said to her "Seriously, don't even worry about the card or the present. The kids won't even notice. They'll just be excited to see you." You think that knowing that the kids would be excited to see them would be incentive enough to make an effort.
I'm soooooo bloody angry. I try so hard not to get involved with any family disputes with them and let Brian handle it since it's his brother. But this time it's different as it involves my children. I just don't know what to do or how to handle it.