Death Be Not Proud
Well, it seems I have a funeral to plan. My father is dying. He's in a coma, has Alzheimers, has pneumonia, can't swallow. I elected not to put him on a feeding tube. He has, at most, four weeks to live. At least I have time to plan things. There are so many decisions to make...cremation or casket, flowers, travel arrangements, type of service, military presence, Free Masons, what would he want?
Its odd. I never thought his death would make me sad. It does though. This bastard abused me and the rest of us for years, sexually, physically, emotionally...and yet, I'm crying over him. I told him years ago, he would die alone. He's not. All of us have rallied round him and have been caring for and about him for years now. He doesn't deserrve it, but he's family.
I'm sad we never had the chance to make amends to each other. The evil man who hurt me died years ago, and only the smiling goofy guy who is my father remains.
For any who read this, try one last time to reach out to your family. Tell them you love them.
Make your last wishes known--WRITE THEM DOWN. You never know when it will happen to you, don't make your family guess or be forced to plan your funeral while grieving. No matter what age you are, or your health, plan now and update every year.
Funeral Planning 101 is a good website to start.
-Liadan
Its odd. I never thought his death would make me sad. It does though. This bastard abused me and the rest of us for years, sexually, physically, emotionally...and yet, I'm crying over him. I told him years ago, he would die alone. He's not. All of us have rallied round him and have been caring for and about him for years now. He doesn't deserrve it, but he's family.
I'm sad we never had the chance to make amends to each other. The evil man who hurt me died years ago, and only the smiling goofy guy who is my father remains.
For any who read this, try one last time to reach out to your family. Tell them you love them.
Make your last wishes known--WRITE THEM DOWN. You never know when it will happen to you, don't make your family guess or be forced to plan your funeral while grieving. No matter what age you are, or your health, plan now and update every year.
Funeral Planning 101 is a good website to start.
-Liadan