#651/ Displayofaffection@xanga
Just a little something I'd like to share...
"I know there will be times when you are hurt. Even now, when things don't go your way, you feel terrible, emotional pain. But i hope you won't blame yourself or someone else for the pain. And, strange as it sounds, i also hope that you will not listen to people who try and talk you out of your pain or show you ways to fix it. Because if you try too hard to fix the pain, it only takes longer to heal. Inevitably, all pain is about longing for yesterday - whatever we had before, whatever used to be. But when pain doesn't go away fast enough, we critisize ourselves for not getting over it, for not being strong enough, or even for being vulnerable in the first place. But... that's not how wounds heal. They don't obey our wishes. Healing takes place in its own way and in its own time. We need to have faith that the pain will pass. After all, pain is an emotion and no emotion stays forever. You will meet alot of well-meaning people, who think they know ways you can heal more quickly and feel less pain. But before you take their advice, remember that everything a physical wound needs to heal is already in your body - Oxygen, blood, nutrients are all in there, ready to begin their work. And the moment you are wounded, the healing begins. Emotional wounds, are just the same. Sometimes these wounds do not heal because the mind gets all involved and says things like "I should do this and i'll feel better" or "maybe i could do that to repair the damage" or "i am hurting because of what another person did, and once they fix it, i will feel better". All of this mind talk just interferes with the natural healing process. When you feel deeply hurt, you have everything in YOURSELF to repair that damage. You want compassion, understanding, and nurturing in order to heal. But most of all, you need time.'"
Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but is also setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you; but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it. You can try your hardest, you can do everything and say everything. But sometimes people just aren’t worth trying over anymore. They aren’t worth worrying about. It’s important to know when to let go of someone who only brings you down.
"Every one of us is losing something precious to us,” he says, after the phone stops ringing. “Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back again. That’s part of what it means to be alive.
(Reblogged, displayofaffection.xanga.com)
"I know there will be times when you are hurt. Even now, when things don't go your way, you feel terrible, emotional pain. But i hope you won't blame yourself or someone else for the pain. And, strange as it sounds, i also hope that you will not listen to people who try and talk you out of your pain or show you ways to fix it. Because if you try too hard to fix the pain, it only takes longer to heal. Inevitably, all pain is about longing for yesterday - whatever we had before, whatever used to be. But when pain doesn't go away fast enough, we critisize ourselves for not getting over it, for not being strong enough, or even for being vulnerable in the first place. But... that's not how wounds heal. They don't obey our wishes. Healing takes place in its own way and in its own time. We need to have faith that the pain will pass. After all, pain is an emotion and no emotion stays forever. You will meet alot of well-meaning people, who think they know ways you can heal more quickly and feel less pain. But before you take their advice, remember that everything a physical wound needs to heal is already in your body - Oxygen, blood, nutrients are all in there, ready to begin their work. And the moment you are wounded, the healing begins. Emotional wounds, are just the same. Sometimes these wounds do not heal because the mind gets all involved and says things like "I should do this and i'll feel better" or "maybe i could do that to repair the damage" or "i am hurting because of what another person did, and once they fix it, i will feel better". All of this mind talk just interferes with the natural healing process. When you feel deeply hurt, you have everything in YOURSELF to repair that damage. You want compassion, understanding, and nurturing in order to heal. But most of all, you need time.'"
Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but is also setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you; but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it. You can try your hardest, you can do everything and say everything. But sometimes people just aren’t worth trying over anymore. They aren’t worth worrying about. It’s important to know when to let go of someone who only brings you down.
"Every one of us is losing something precious to us,” he says, after the phone stops ringing. “Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back again. That’s part of what it means to be alive.
(Reblogged, displayofaffection.xanga.com)