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[leweirdkidryan]

at random times i hate myself for looking back on the past, and wishing that things had worked out. things always looks better when reflecting on them, because you always look back on the good vs. the bad

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[miss_d3438]

I suppose that knowing love and knowing that love is possible is better than never knowing love at all. It goes without saying that when someone has their heart broken they change and sometimes they pick up emotional baggage and are possibly never the same after that, but having your heart broken may be less painful then never knowing love at all. To be numb or pretend to be numb to love- it’s almost like a form of self protection but I believe that we end up hurting ourselves more by using this front. Love is a common emotion to most human beings in one way or another and if someone never experienced love they would be disadvantaged in a way- they wouldn’t be able to relate or understand other people’s feelings. Even if love doesn’t work out - you are aware of how it made you feel and you can connect or relate to other people. If a relationship doesn’t work out, perhaps we just have to hope that someday someone more perfectly suited to us will come along and provide us with infinitely more love then we ever experienced before. Perhaps that sounds stupid - but I’d rather think about stupid optimistic ideas than fall into despair over things that I can not control, like other people’s feelings.

I don’t know if this will help, but I once heard a good simile for love. “Love is like standing in a minefield. People take steps and get blown up, but continue to move forward after being blown up.” I think it’s better to take a chance and fail then to wonder what might have been.

I also find that it’s easier to not have any expectations from the new people in our lives. If something is meant to be- you’ll know.