There can be many reasons for feeling comfortable telling things to one person but not another. Sharing similar experiences, having similar personalities, or a feeling of empathy, that takes someone from being a friend to being a close friend. The amount of time you've known someone doesn't matter, it's all about whether there's that certain element which makes it possible to say personal things.
Having friends you don't feel comfortable sharing personal things with is ok, not everyone needs to know your deepest thoughts. It would only be depressing if you didn't have anyone to share thoughts with at all. Normally I prefer most people to not know how I feel, because I don't want them to worry about me or don't think they would understand. But it does feel really good to know that someone understands who you truely are and why you behave the way you do, without judging or criticising. Someone who wants to help and comfort you in the non-happy times.
Maybe you find it hard to talk to girls because you are afraid that they will judge you, because you are a girl too. Like peer pressure.
Having friends you don't feel comfortable sharing personal things with is ok, not everyone needs to know your deepest thoughts. It would only be depressing if you didn't have anyone to share thoughts with at all. Normally I prefer most people to not know how I feel, because I don't want them to worry about me or don't think they would understand. But it does feel really good to know that someone understands who you truely are and why you behave the way you do, without judging or criticising. Someone who wants to help and comfort you in the non-happy times.
Maybe you find it hard to talk to girls because you are afraid that they will judge you, because you are a girl too. Like peer pressure.
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