Thanks for caring enough to write what you wrote, and you are right, for the most part.
She is neurotic. She is selfish. She is "stuck" in the past in some key ways. She is hard to deal with, and my kids do complain about her often enough. But she can also be a good mother, is at times a positive influence, and at the moment I truly believe that I would lose a custody battle in Illinois.
Also, recently, We've been talking about one set of circumstances surrounding a pivotal religious ceremony which has a lot of symbolism surrounding it, some of which a few of us understand, and most of which the rest of us do not. It's over now, and I'm putting it behind me. So is Jim.
My ex- and I share joint custody of my kids. Jim and I have them living with us from after school each Wednesday until late Saturday each week. I believe there will be a time in the not-too-distant future when my kids will need to live with Jim and me, but that time has not yet come. They are young enough yet that they still need their mother, and as a father I understand this fact. Yes, she has a terrible temper, and there's a lot of fighting that goes on over at her place three blocks from my place. When the balance tips, we'll all know it.
I started seeing a therapist today in order to sort through a lot of these issues. We set up appointments for after I get back from CA for the next couple of months. Stay tuned, my friend. And again, thanks a lot for caring. I hope to return the favor when you need it from me -- or maybe not, since I wish you peace in your life!
It really sounds like you have it all under control on your end then. So just stay strong, continue to tell the kids how much you (and Jim) love them, and make sure they know they're valued. I know you're doing that already, but it never hurts to say it. :)
She is neurotic. She is selfish. She is "stuck" in the past in some key ways. She is hard to deal with, and my kids do complain about her often enough. But she can also be a good mother, is at times a positive influence, and at the moment I truly believe that I would lose a custody battle in Illinois.
Also, recently, We've been talking about one set of circumstances surrounding a pivotal religious ceremony which has a lot of symbolism surrounding it, some of which a few of us understand, and most of which the rest of us do not. It's over now, and I'm putting it behind me. So is Jim.
My ex- and I share joint custody of my kids. Jim and I have them living with us from after school each Wednesday until late Saturday each week. I believe there will be a time in the not-too-distant future when my kids will need to live with Jim and me, but that time has not yet come. They are young enough yet that they still need their mother, and as a father I understand this fact. Yes, she has a terrible temper, and there's a lot of fighting that goes on over at her place three blocks from my place. When the balance tips, we'll all know it.
I started seeing a therapist today in order to sort through a lot of these issues. We set up appointments for after I get back from CA for the next couple of months. Stay tuned, my friend. And again, thanks a lot for caring. I hope to return the favor when you need it from me -- or maybe not, since I wish you peace in your life!
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