LIFE

[lethrdadchicago]

This is the second in a series of three posts that I am firing off today after a series of rapid-fire events that occurred in a 24-hour period starting during the morning on Sunday, 1/27/08. Feel free, this being America and LiveJournal being what it is, to read this before during or after the other two, but they were written so that the sequence

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[cellboy]

Wow! So moving. You gave up your dream job to do what your grandfather did, live for them, your kids, and not for yourself. Kudos to you. After reading all three posts, and wiping my watery eyes, I wish the best for your family, mother-in-law, and you.
I myself, to this day, wonder what I can do, to leave a bit of myself, a legacy, for others to remember. I am still searching too. I get an-cy just asking myself, what can I do to complete my life in a positive way? (I suppose like all of us, we would like to be remembered with a splash of lights, Hollywood style maybe due to some what of lack of childhood recognition, or insecurity? Maybe not). The unfortunate thing for many gay people, is that we, do not have kids. That is one legacy short for me to leave. I think the first step I guess is to start with family, friends, acquaintances, and then move out and on from there. Giving of yourself to them. In the best way one can. I just want to leave this earth knowing, that I loved the right soul mate, he loved me. I was (am) loved by, and loved my family and friends, and that I did accomplish my goals (what ever that is).Knowing that had been accomplished, would make a happy heart, and leave a never ending smile on my face to my dying day and beyond.

[lethrdadchicago]

Thanks much, bud. I think that the childhood instinct of yours is pretty true in my case, being the oldest of five I didn't get a whole lot of attention, I guess. I've always been determined not to make the same mistakes with my kids that my folks made with me, for sure. I also know how totally lucky that I am, as a gay man, to have the privilege of having kids, in terms both of posterity and just being a dad overall. I love every minute of it. Jim has a tougher time, he never thought he was going to be a parent and finds our unique situation difficult sometimes. When the going gets tough, he goes shopping! I really wish for you the satisfaction that you desire and deserve. And I'm glad that we're friends.