why don't you just talk to him face-to-face and give him some closure? the more you ignore him, the stronger and more intense his feelings are going to grow, which is going to make his antics crazier and crazier. he obviously feels really strongly about you, so why not just talk to him about this whole situation and his feelings? i think everybody hurt in a relationship deserves that. if you're ultra sweet with him, but at the same time make it clear that nothing's going to happen between the two of you, he'll feel a little embarrassed about his actions. if you are really accommodating and say "if you ever want to talk, give me a call and we can talk about your feelings" or something like that, he'll immediately back off because he won't want you to pity him and he won't want to feel like a wuss or something. just talk to him and be strong and supportive throughout the whole ordeal and he'll back off. but if you keep running away, he's just going to chase after you harder because he's obsessed with you, obviously. obsessions don't go away when you run away from them. but i think if you play the role of a supportive sister/friend and act like you care about him and him feeling better about the whole situation, he won't want that kind of sister/friend care. if you stay really strong and act like his behavior doesn't phase you, he'll come to his senses about how he's been acting and how silly his stalkish behavior is. eventually it'll just fade away like most infatuations do.
hey josh. thanks for the advice. i don't know what to do.
we had a couple of long conversations about this before he started going crazy on me, & we agreed to be friends if nothing more. but then when i was unable to "be a good friend" because i was extremely busy with school/work/dance he got all crazy on me. which was weird to me becuase i told him what i was doing every night (not ignoring him) & i thought we had made it clear to break up, but then again iw as trying too hard to be nice & not hurt his feelings so i think he thought we still had a chance.
then the night he started showing up everywhere we had another convo about it over the phone. i definitely gave him closure but he didn't want to accept it obviously.
but it kind of scares me because he told me once that he "kind of stalked" his ex girlfriend. and the thing is nothing ever happened between me & him to make it a serious relationship. we didn't date very long and i was never led him on with anything. i was going to have sushi with him like a week ago, but my dad made me promise not to see him again since every time i replied to his texts he started acting crazy again. i think that any attention i give him is taken positively in his mind. i don't want him to thnik we are ever getting back together because that's what he thinks will happen if i talk to him again. fhdsiufghd
plus my dad (you know how crazy he is) wants me to get a restraining order on him if he starts following me around again & i can't do that if i start talking to him again.
why don't you just talk to him face-to-face and give him some closure? the more you ignore him, the stronger and more intense his feelings are going to grow, which is going to make his antics crazier and crazier. he obviously feels really strongly about you, so why not just talk to him about this whole situation and his feelings? i think everybody hurt in a relationship deserves that. if you're ultra sweet with him, but at the same time make it clear that nothing's going to happen between the two of you, he'll feel a little embarrassed about his actions. if you are really accommodating and say "if you ever want to talk, give me a call and we can talk about your feelings" or something like that, he'll immediately back off because he won't want you to pity him and he won't want to feel like a wuss or something. just talk to him and be strong and supportive throughout the whole ordeal and he'll back off. but if you keep running away, he's just going to chase after you harder because he's obsessed with you, obviously. obsessions don't go away when you run away from them. but i think if you play the role of a supportive sister/friend and act like you care about him and him feeling better about the whole situation, he won't want that kind of sister/friend care. if you stay really strong and act like his behavior doesn't phase you, he'll come to his senses about how he's been acting and how silly his stalkish behavior is. eventually it'll just fade away like most infatuations do.
hope that helps!
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we had a couple of long conversations about this before he started going crazy on me, & we agreed to be friends if nothing more. but then when i was unable to "be a good friend" because i was extremely busy with school/work/dance he got all crazy on me. which was weird to me becuase i told him what i was doing every night (not ignoring him) & i thought we had made it clear to break up, but then again iw as trying too hard to be nice & not hurt his feelings so i think he thought we still had a chance.
then the night he started showing up everywhere we had another convo about it over the phone. i definitely gave him closure but he didn't want to accept it obviously.
but it kind of scares me because he told me once that he "kind of stalked" his ex girlfriend. and the thing is nothing ever happened between me & him to make it a serious relationship. we didn't date very long and i was never led him on with anything. i was going to have sushi with him like a week ago, but my dad made me promise not to see him again since every time i replied to his texts he started acting crazy again. i think that any attention i give him is taken positively in his mind. i don't want him to thnik we are ever getting back together because that's what he thinks will happen if i talk to him again. fhdsiufghd
plus my dad (you know how crazy he is) wants me to get a restraining order on him if he starts following me around again & i can't do that if i start talking to him again.
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