whole story... for now
ok so the last month or so, i have been extremely busy with school & i've also been hanging out with my friends a lot (trying to hang out with old friends & also i've started swing dancing 2-3 times a week) so nate couldn't handle that i am busy & have a life & he didn't. ( he really doesn't have any friends or hobbies). plus he knew i wasn't that into the "relationship" & was getting mad that i never said "i love you" because i felt more like friends pretty much the whole time. so he started getting crazy when i couldn't hang out because i was swing dancing or studying or whatever you will.
it started getting weird a few weeks ago but it started getting REALLY bad last friday.
(this is a really watered down version, btw)
earlier in the week we had a "talk" and i thought it was obvious we broke up. apparently not
friday, he wanted me to go downtown w/ him after i was done swing dancing. i just never responded to his texts. but i actually ended up going downtown anyways to meet w/ danielle. so i get a call from nate & i'm all paranoid that he sees me down there so i answer it and play dumb. he's all "where are you?" and i say "i can barely here you, i'll call you later" so i get a text like 20 minutes later from him saying "i'm here" and a voicemail saying he's at this place i used to go over the summer, sapporo on flamingo/215, but he can't find me. i tell him that i never said i was there, let alone for him to go there! he asks again where i am and i say i'm driving home.
so i don't get home until 3:30am and he is waiting outside my house wanting to talk. he was waiting for over an hour. i get all creeped out & don't want to talk. but he comes up into my garage anyway & i have to tell him i'll talk tomorrow.
the next day (sat) he brings me flowers to work but i can't talk cus i'm ringing up a bride for alterations. after work, he calls and i say i'm already busy w/ friends at the UNLV game. he texts after the game is over & i don't respond. my friends & i go to gordon biersch for dinner & nate shows up there. HOW? i don't know but my car was in the lot so he must have been going place to place to find me. (we did go there ONE time).
so i hide in the bathroom cus i am seriously freaked out. he ends up sitting at the bar and tries to send drinks over to me but my friends refuse them for me. then he comes to the table to confront me & i tell him this isn't the time or place. he says "well, i'll be over at the bar if you want to talk" but i never got up to talk. then the waiter comes over AGAIN to say he wants to buy the table a round of drunks if he can sit with us. we said no. nate eventually leaves.
we leave after a while & he is waiting at my car... so i get in jamie's truck w/ her and ciara, but jamie has this stupid clutch that takes forever to get off. nate comes up to the truck & taps on the window to talk. & he is acting all creepy & not at all like him. hazel comes up & tells him to let it go. he's all "trish is either going to stay with me or break up with me RIGHT NOW!" so hazel tells him i want to break up and that we need to go, cus we are going to nine fine (smooth move hazel). and then he starts getting all crazy again telling my friends if we break up, he gets to "keep" them. finally he leaves us alone.
so i get a million texts on my drive over.. so i tell him to leave me alone. i then say, "this is ridiculous we NEED to end this" & he says i have to say it to his face & i say "no i don't." then he says "i will go wherever i have to" so i was all paranoid he would show up at nine fine (thanks hazel) but it was already like 11 and he has to work 12-8am on saturday so i figured he wouldn't come. i finally get home at 3:30am & don't see anyone waiting outside my house this time.
except when i'm about to pull up to my house, a car comes down the street so i don't take any chances. i pull down the street right before rainbow & circle around to drive on rainbow to see if i see him but not be obvious. i then get a phone call from him. so i freaked out and drove around the area & called jamie, ciara, emily & gage to save me or let me spend the night over w/ them. but! no one answered. & i see nate is still waiting outside my house. so i drive around for a little. but then i say to myself that this is stupid & i want to go home because it's late & he probably left by now anyways. so i pull up to my house & nate comes out of NOWHERE! (he was hiding at my neighbor's house down the street) and starts chasing me in my car pretty fast. so i finally call him & tell him to leave me the F alone & started yelling at him. i was honestly SO mad. i finally tell him i will only talk to him if he stops following me. this is 4 am.
the next morning at 8am he comes to my house & talks to my mom to have her give me a letter. jamie texts him for me & tells him to leave me alone cus my dad will get involved. (my dad is crazy if he doesn't like the guys i date. plus he has 3 guns & a concealed weapons permit) so nate tells her he deleted all of our numbers out of his phone & took us off his myspace. i made my profile private too.
so i think he finally has started leaving me alone.
but, wednesday he starts texting/calling me again (i thought he deleted my number?) he wants to meet up for sushi. i say no cus i was watching the debate & it was way too soon after the stalking to be "friends," but i feel really bad for hurting him. then he says he has to give me a book i let him borrow (which i did not need back at all) but i tell him i'm pretty much busy until the next week because of all my schoolwork. i had to meet with my group thursday after work & friday i already had plans. so friday he asks me to have dinner again & i tell him i'm busy again, he asks to come by work & i tell him no because my dad is there & he is upset about the whole situation. he asks again, i say no. he asks again. no. he comes by anyways (right after my dad left). he set the book on the counter & left immediately since i was helping someone. then he texts me to make sure i saw the book (no shit- i was looking right at him set it down)
so, i get texts all day saturday. i don't respond because it was getting ridiculous (emily & gage told me to completely ignore him at this point)
sunday.. he texts me all day saying he needs to see me. (no response from me) & my parents are already out of town so i'm a little worried. he shows up at my house. i told my siblings not to answer the door whatsoever. my siblings, brother's friend, & i all hide but nate knew we were home it was obvious. (dogs are barking & my brother turns off all the lights as soon as the doorbell rings) nate calls repeatedly. then he calls my house # (don't know how he got that) i get scared & call my dad in florida & ask him what to do.. do i wait it out or confront him, or call the cops? my dad calls our cop neighbors & they come over to check on me but nate had already left. my dad then calls nate & blocks his number. he says (to put it nicely) "leave my daughter alone, do not contact her, don't come around her or i'll come down to where you work & rip your head off & shove it down your throat!" nate calls my house AGAIN leaving a long sob story message. cry me a fucking river. & then a half hour later he myspace friend requested me for the third time!!!!!
WHAT THE HECK!!!!!! he knows my dad is crazy!!!!! why would you test him!!!!! & the funny thing is... this was NEVER a serious relationship. i was never into him, i felt like we were friends. we like never really kissed or ANYTHING. whatttt the helllll
longest story EVER.
so anyways. i've possibly had the 3 most horrible relationships/break ups in a row. what the hell is wrong with me? why can't i have a relationship where i am completely happy? & i've also dated a bunch of guys in between but nothing ever feels right. i know i am still young but how many losers do i have to date before i find the perfect guy?? i'm so sick of this BS
it started getting weird a few weeks ago but it started getting REALLY bad last friday.
(this is a really watered down version, btw)
earlier in the week we had a "talk" and i thought it was obvious we broke up. apparently not
friday, he wanted me to go downtown w/ him after i was done swing dancing. i just never responded to his texts. but i actually ended up going downtown anyways to meet w/ danielle. so i get a call from nate & i'm all paranoid that he sees me down there so i answer it and play dumb. he's all "where are you?" and i say "i can barely here you, i'll call you later" so i get a text like 20 minutes later from him saying "i'm here" and a voicemail saying he's at this place i used to go over the summer, sapporo on flamingo/215, but he can't find me. i tell him that i never said i was there, let alone for him to go there! he asks again where i am and i say i'm driving home.
so i don't get home until 3:30am and he is waiting outside my house wanting to talk. he was waiting for over an hour. i get all creeped out & don't want to talk. but he comes up into my garage anyway & i have to tell him i'll talk tomorrow.
the next day (sat) he brings me flowers to work but i can't talk cus i'm ringing up a bride for alterations. after work, he calls and i say i'm already busy w/ friends at the UNLV game. he texts after the game is over & i don't respond. my friends & i go to gordon biersch for dinner & nate shows up there. HOW? i don't know but my car was in the lot so he must have been going place to place to find me. (we did go there ONE time).
so i hide in the bathroom cus i am seriously freaked out. he ends up sitting at the bar and tries to send drinks over to me but my friends refuse them for me. then he comes to the table to confront me & i tell him this isn't the time or place. he says "well, i'll be over at the bar if you want to talk" but i never got up to talk. then the waiter comes over AGAIN to say he wants to buy the table a round of drunks if he can sit with us. we said no. nate eventually leaves.
we leave after a while & he is waiting at my car... so i get in jamie's truck w/ her and ciara, but jamie has this stupid clutch that takes forever to get off. nate comes up to the truck & taps on the window to talk. & he is acting all creepy & not at all like him. hazel comes up & tells him to let it go. he's all "trish is either going to stay with me or break up with me RIGHT NOW!" so hazel tells him i want to break up and that we need to go, cus we are going to nine fine (smooth move hazel). and then he starts getting all crazy again telling my friends if we break up, he gets to "keep" them. finally he leaves us alone.
so i get a million texts on my drive over.. so i tell him to leave me alone. i then say, "this is ridiculous we NEED to end this" & he says i have to say it to his face & i say "no i don't." then he says "i will go wherever i have to" so i was all paranoid he would show up at nine fine (thanks hazel) but it was already like 11 and he has to work 12-8am on saturday so i figured he wouldn't come. i finally get home at 3:30am & don't see anyone waiting outside my house this time.
except when i'm about to pull up to my house, a car comes down the street so i don't take any chances. i pull down the street right before rainbow & circle around to drive on rainbow to see if i see him but not be obvious. i then get a phone call from him. so i freaked out and drove around the area & called jamie, ciara, emily & gage to save me or let me spend the night over w/ them. but! no one answered. & i see nate is still waiting outside my house. so i drive around for a little. but then i say to myself that this is stupid & i want to go home because it's late & he probably left by now anyways. so i pull up to my house & nate comes out of NOWHERE! (he was hiding at my neighbor's house down the street) and starts chasing me in my car pretty fast. so i finally call him & tell him to leave me the F alone & started yelling at him. i was honestly SO mad. i finally tell him i will only talk to him if he stops following me. this is 4 am.
the next morning at 8am he comes to my house & talks to my mom to have her give me a letter. jamie texts him for me & tells him to leave me alone cus my dad will get involved. (my dad is crazy if he doesn't like the guys i date. plus he has 3 guns & a concealed weapons permit) so nate tells her he deleted all of our numbers out of his phone & took us off his myspace. i made my profile private too.
so i think he finally has started leaving me alone.
but, wednesday he starts texting/calling me again (i thought he deleted my number?) he wants to meet up for sushi. i say no cus i was watching the debate & it was way too soon after the stalking to be "friends," but i feel really bad for hurting him. then he says he has to give me a book i let him borrow (which i did not need back at all) but i tell him i'm pretty much busy until the next week because of all my schoolwork. i had to meet with my group thursday after work & friday i already had plans. so friday he asks me to have dinner again & i tell him i'm busy again, he asks to come by work & i tell him no because my dad is there & he is upset about the whole situation. he asks again, i say no. he asks again. no. he comes by anyways (right after my dad left). he set the book on the counter & left immediately since i was helping someone. then he texts me to make sure i saw the book (no shit- i was looking right at him set it down)
so, i get texts all day saturday. i don't respond because it was getting ridiculous (emily & gage told me to completely ignore him at this point)
sunday.. he texts me all day saying he needs to see me. (no response from me) & my parents are already out of town so i'm a little worried. he shows up at my house. i told my siblings not to answer the door whatsoever. my siblings, brother's friend, & i all hide but nate knew we were home it was obvious. (dogs are barking & my brother turns off all the lights as soon as the doorbell rings) nate calls repeatedly. then he calls my house # (don't know how he got that) i get scared & call my dad in florida & ask him what to do.. do i wait it out or confront him, or call the cops? my dad calls our cop neighbors & they come over to check on me but nate had already left. my dad then calls nate & blocks his number. he says (to put it nicely) "leave my daughter alone, do not contact her, don't come around her or i'll come down to where you work & rip your head off & shove it down your throat!" nate calls my house AGAIN leaving a long sob story message. cry me a fucking river. & then a half hour later he myspace friend requested me for the third time!!!!!
WHAT THE HECK!!!!!! he knows my dad is crazy!!!!! why would you test him!!!!! & the funny thing is... this was NEVER a serious relationship. i was never into him, i felt like we were friends. we like never really kissed or ANYTHING. whatttt the helllll
longest story EVER.
so anyways. i've possibly had the 3 most horrible relationships/break ups in a row. what the hell is wrong with me? why can't i have a relationship where i am completely happy? & i've also dated a bunch of guys in between but nothing ever feels right. i know i am still young but how many losers do i have to date before i find the perfect guy?? i'm so sick of this BS