I was constantly at my grammie claire's house growing up, I went there every day after school some years, every friday night, many weekends... she even lived downstairs in our home when I got to high school. I *do* come from a multi-generational family set up. She was the caretaker for her mother and they both babysat me when I was really small. I don't come from a family where we pack up the elderly and we are 4 generations from the same town... I have quite a bit of experience with the multigenerational family.
I'm not saying that losing a grandparent isn't a terrible thing. I'm saying that I have lost great grandparents, grand parents, great aunts and uncles and a parent at this point. All of these people were people I had relationships with. And losing all of them was terrible they were all people who made me feel taken care of and safe growing up. Some of them died suddenly, some of them languished over the course of years...and some of them did a combination of the two.
Losing my Dad was the most disorienting and felt the most absolutely unfair.
I'm not saying that losing a grandparent isn't a terrible thing. I'm saying that I have lost great grandparents, grand parents, great aunts and uncles and a parent at this point. All of these people were people I had relationships with. And losing all of them was terrible they were all people who made me feel taken care of and safe growing up. Some of them died suddenly, some of them languished over the course of years...and some of them did a combination of the two.
Losing my Dad was the most disorienting and felt the most absolutely unfair.
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