Need Advice.
I'll try to keep this short.
I moved recently to start a PhD at UC Davis. I met a guy in the program who is a fourth year and our personalities clicked - I thought it was in that "friends" sort of way at first. Like maybe we could start hanging out more. At a recent mixer we both attended, I (slightly buzzed) asked him to help me spot the lesbians, because I'm terrible at it. This was apparently a shock to him, and he later made a comment about me being "off the table", and a couple other comments that indicated he'd had interest.
Oh, it gets better. After more drinks had been drunk, he approached me on the dance floor while I was dancing with some random people, and pulled me in to dance with him. We danced a lot. It was great fun, he's a good dancer. There was some grinding. Nothing else happened. Just dancing. But pretty crazy dancing.
And now I'm at a total loss how I feel about this whole situation. I prefer women, but I do acknowledge that I can be attracted to men, so it isn't my sexuality that is confusing me. I just don't know how I feel about this guy. I sort of want to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to approach it or bring it up. I'm not even sure what I want to ask. I just feel like talking about it would make me feel better. What do I do? Should I talk to him? What do I say??
I moved recently to start a PhD at UC Davis. I met a guy in the program who is a fourth year and our personalities clicked - I thought it was in that "friends" sort of way at first. Like maybe we could start hanging out more. At a recent mixer we both attended, I (slightly buzzed) asked him to help me spot the lesbians, because I'm terrible at it. This was apparently a shock to him, and he later made a comment about me being "off the table", and a couple other comments that indicated he'd had interest.
Oh, it gets better. After more drinks had been drunk, he approached me on the dance floor while I was dancing with some random people, and pulled me in to dance with him. We danced a lot. It was great fun, he's a good dancer. There was some grinding. Nothing else happened. Just dancing. But pretty crazy dancing.
And now I'm at a total loss how I feel about this whole situation. I prefer women, but I do acknowledge that I can be attracted to men, so it isn't my sexuality that is confusing me. I just don't know how I feel about this guy. I sort of want to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to approach it or bring it up. I'm not even sure what I want to ask. I just feel like talking about it would make me feel better. What do I do? Should I talk to him? What do I say??