gah.
Love is complex.Like the intricacies of a woven tapestry, from the colors to the threads used, the stitches, loops, knots…You start to think, hey, it’s cool how all these elements just come together and make the most gorgeous pattern.You step back, appreciate the design and the Weaver who created it.
Then Someone Important To You comes and points out a loose thread.
And you’re a little surprised at why, though you’ve looked the tapestry over many times, you’ve never noticed that loose thread.And now, your eyes can’t help but focus on it.Don’t get me wrong, you’re still fond of the design, but the nagging thought leaves you with some choices: (a) snip off the thread, (b) try to insert it back into the tapestry yourself, (c) ask the Weaver if he can do something about it, or (d) just keep quiet and leave it alone.
Go with (a) and you risk unraveling the whole tapestry, or snipping off more than necessary.Either way, you don’t want to touch it.Besides, it isn’t yours.It’s like trying to ‘improve’ a Monet with pastel crayons.
If you try (b), you may force the thread a little too hard into the tapestry, which will distort a chunk of the pattern, if not the whole design.Again, the Monet analogy.Or the thread might not fit anywhere because the tapestry is so tightly woven.
With (c), you’re leaving it up to the one who created it.He knows his creation best, and he knows how to remedy the problem.Or it may not be the loose thread at all, but how you appreciate the tapestry.
Hey, you valued the tapestry with the loose thread without knowing it was there, so why can’t you do the same, knowing it’s there?The design hasn’t changed at all.But if you can’t look at it the same way, then picking (d) will just make you a martyr.
Before, I would have picked (d).And that has led to some unhappy experiences.
So the best choice would have to be (c).Whether the problem lies with the tapestry or your point of view, it will be solved in due time.
…And then you’ll still have to deal with Someone Important To You, who may not see the things you see, who may not have learned the things you’ve learned, who thinks it’s their duty to plague you with their incessant nagging (a bit of redundancy there, totally intended).
Yeah… so right now I fit somewhere in between the two preceding paragraphs.Or if they were chili con carne and mashed potatoes, there’d be a big squishy mess on my plate.
sigh. doesn't having expectations of someone mean that you believe the person has the capability to meet those expectations?
ok i think i'll end it there.
meeting ryan in a couple of mins, btw.
Then Someone Important To You comes and points out a loose thread.
And you’re a little surprised at why, though you’ve looked the tapestry over many times, you’ve never noticed that loose thread.And now, your eyes can’t help but focus on it.Don’t get me wrong, you’re still fond of the design, but the nagging thought leaves you with some choices: (a) snip off the thread, (b) try to insert it back into the tapestry yourself, (c) ask the Weaver if he can do something about it, or (d) just keep quiet and leave it alone.
Go with (a) and you risk unraveling the whole tapestry, or snipping off more than necessary.Either way, you don’t want to touch it.Besides, it isn’t yours.It’s like trying to ‘improve’ a Monet with pastel crayons.
If you try (b), you may force the thread a little too hard into the tapestry, which will distort a chunk of the pattern, if not the whole design.Again, the Monet analogy.Or the thread might not fit anywhere because the tapestry is so tightly woven.
With (c), you’re leaving it up to the one who created it.He knows his creation best, and he knows how to remedy the problem.Or it may not be the loose thread at all, but how you appreciate the tapestry.
Hey, you valued the tapestry with the loose thread without knowing it was there, so why can’t you do the same, knowing it’s there?The design hasn’t changed at all.But if you can’t look at it the same way, then picking (d) will just make you a martyr.
Before, I would have picked (d).And that has led to some unhappy experiences.
So the best choice would have to be (c).Whether the problem lies with the tapestry or your point of view, it will be solved in due time.
…And then you’ll still have to deal with Someone Important To You, who may not see the things you see, who may not have learned the things you’ve learned, who thinks it’s their duty to plague you with their incessant nagging (a bit of redundancy there, totally intended).
Yeah… so right now I fit somewhere in between the two preceding paragraphs.Or if they were chili con carne and mashed potatoes, there’d be a big squishy mess on my plate.
sigh. doesn't having expectations of someone mean that you believe the person has the capability to meet those expectations?
ok i think i'll end it there.
meeting ryan in a couple of mins, btw.