No Time Is Left To Relax
The subject is a Jones in the Fast Lane reference, a fun game, by the way. At least, I liked it. It is an old game, so not very impressive by today's standards, but a bit of humor in it. It's basically a game of life. You need to get a job, buy groceries, try to accumulate education (to get a better job) and money and such. You set your goals at the beginning of the game, accumulating X total amount of success, but you decide how much to portion into each category: happiness, education, money, ... and something, I forget. You do things like buy a better suit to be able to get a job. At first, you have to live off of fast food, but you try to save up for a fridge, so you can save money by buying groceries. You try to spend time relaxing to be happy. And if you overwork yourself or eat your groceries too long after you got them, you might get sick. Quite a good game in retrospect.
That all has nothing to do with what this post is about.
This post is about the fact that I haven't had time to do the things I want to do, and in fact, don't have time to make this post, but am doing so anyway. So, anyhow... first, thank you Jessica and Kate for the cards. I should have thanked you both a while ago, but every day I am behind on things. I need to drop something, and there's nothing I want to drop :/
I'm also full up on tabs, overfilled. So, let me post some links:
Azurelunatic wrote this nifty social guide to LJ. I read parts and skimmed parts, and it looked quite good. But then, she usually writes good stuff, and she knows a lot about LJ.
I am sometimes tempted to explain my policies in my bio, but I like my bio the way it is, and I hate adding anything to it that would clutter up the aesthetics of leaving it as it is with no more. If I only had a second enter whatever text you want to section in my userinfo, then I'd add a bunch of stuff. So, let me say a few things:
Anyone may friend my journal. I lock what I don't want to be public. If it's public, you have a right to read it. Anyone may defriend my journal, and I am a strong supporter of drama-free defriending.
I prefer that people tell me why they are friending or defriending my journal, as I do like to know. But it's not required.
My journal is also an off-topic safe zone. Every post in it is a place where you are welcome to comment on any subject you want. You are free to try to start discussions in it. Okay, not quite any topic... spam is not okay, illegal content is not okay. Don't violate LiveJournal's own rules. Don't attack my friends. But general conversation is fine.
Debate, even argument is fine. Try not to flame. But I'm pretty tough and so are most of my friends. But not all of my friends, so be nice to my friends. But debate and discussion is encouraged. And I'm not likely to be easily offended.
If you have questions, ask. Every post is also an: Ask me anything you want to: post. I don't guarantee I'll answer. How likely I am to will largely depend on how much time and energy I have. But I might. I might even answer quite in-depth. I'm not good at concision anyhow. I won't be offended if you don't know or remember something that I posted about.
Okay, on to some other links, sorry for not attributing where I got them from, they've built up a bit.
Learning to Lie - on lying as a developmental milestone and how kids learn to lie and why they do so. What I really like about this article though is in the later pages about how different parenting styles affect children. I like real research that can be applied when deciding how to handle children. On a side note, I hate the idea that "tattling" is bad. I always saw it as an excuse to make kids suck up abuse. Maybe there's some good idea behind it, but as it distances children from their parents and makes it easier for them to be abused, I don't intend to encourage it. If anyone has a good argument for it, please do share. I may be missing something. The primary argument I see for it is that it makes life easier for adults. But I think you can let kids report something and then still encourage them to find a way to work it out themselves. And, at first, they're going to need suggestions anyhow. Kids like handling things on their own, so if they're not doing so, they probably could use some guidance.
The Science of Orgasms a look into what research has learned about the human orgasm. Including a study that required couples to be able to induce an orgasm within a two minute interval with eight minutes of lead time. They were told to practice at home first. Umm, wow. that's a lot of pressure.
Ten interesting psych studies this is an article mainly for people who don't study psychology that explains some major psych studies and what they mean for real world behavior. Even if you have studied psych, I recommend reading it. It's a very short intro to each one with a link to read the details on each. So, I didn't bother to read the ones I already knew, such as Asch, Milgram, Zimbardo, etc. but the ones I wasn't already familiar with were sometimes fascinating, such as the Robbers Cave Experiment. This link reminded me a lot of the summaries of psych stuff I was doing a while ago. A good read.
Rat Park a fascinating series of experiments on drug addiction. Pointing out that maybe lab rats become addicted because their lives suck, and what is their drug use behavior when their lives don't suck? It points to the idea that making people's lives suck less may be a useful tactic in decreasing the problems with drug use.
And one just for fun: The Table of Condiments that Periodically Go Bad.
That all has nothing to do with what this post is about.
This post is about the fact that I haven't had time to do the things I want to do, and in fact, don't have time to make this post, but am doing so anyway. So, anyhow... first, thank you Jessica and Kate for the cards. I should have thanked you both a while ago, but every day I am behind on things. I need to drop something, and there's nothing I want to drop :/
I'm also full up on tabs, overfilled. So, let me post some links:
Azurelunatic wrote this nifty social guide to LJ. I read parts and skimmed parts, and it looked quite good. But then, she usually writes good stuff, and she knows a lot about LJ.
I am sometimes tempted to explain my policies in my bio, but I like my bio the way it is, and I hate adding anything to it that would clutter up the aesthetics of leaving it as it is with no more. If I only had a second enter whatever text you want to section in my userinfo, then I'd add a bunch of stuff. So, let me say a few things:
Anyone may friend my journal. I lock what I don't want to be public. If it's public, you have a right to read it. Anyone may defriend my journal, and I am a strong supporter of drama-free defriending.
I prefer that people tell me why they are friending or defriending my journal, as I do like to know. But it's not required.
My journal is also an off-topic safe zone. Every post in it is a place where you are welcome to comment on any subject you want. You are free to try to start discussions in it. Okay, not quite any topic... spam is not okay, illegal content is not okay. Don't violate LiveJournal's own rules. Don't attack my friends. But general conversation is fine.
Debate, even argument is fine. Try not to flame. But I'm pretty tough and so are most of my friends. But not all of my friends, so be nice to my friends. But debate and discussion is encouraged. And I'm not likely to be easily offended.
If you have questions, ask. Every post is also an: Ask me anything you want to: post. I don't guarantee I'll answer. How likely I am to will largely depend on how much time and energy I have. But I might. I might even answer quite in-depth. I'm not good at concision anyhow. I won't be offended if you don't know or remember something that I posted about.
Okay, on to some other links, sorry for not attributing where I got them from, they've built up a bit.
Learning to Lie - on lying as a developmental milestone and how kids learn to lie and why they do so. What I really like about this article though is in the later pages about how different parenting styles affect children. I like real research that can be applied when deciding how to handle children. On a side note, I hate the idea that "tattling" is bad. I always saw it as an excuse to make kids suck up abuse. Maybe there's some good idea behind it, but as it distances children from their parents and makes it easier for them to be abused, I don't intend to encourage it. If anyone has a good argument for it, please do share. I may be missing something. The primary argument I see for it is that it makes life easier for adults. But I think you can let kids report something and then still encourage them to find a way to work it out themselves. And, at first, they're going to need suggestions anyhow. Kids like handling things on their own, so if they're not doing so, they probably could use some guidance.
The Science of Orgasms a look into what research has learned about the human orgasm. Including a study that required couples to be able to induce an orgasm within a two minute interval with eight minutes of lead time. They were told to practice at home first. Umm, wow. that's a lot of pressure.
Ten interesting psych studies this is an article mainly for people who don't study psychology that explains some major psych studies and what they mean for real world behavior. Even if you have studied psych, I recommend reading it. It's a very short intro to each one with a link to read the details on each. So, I didn't bother to read the ones I already knew, such as Asch, Milgram, Zimbardo, etc. but the ones I wasn't already familiar with were sometimes fascinating, such as the Robbers Cave Experiment. This link reminded me a lot of the summaries of psych stuff I was doing a while ago. A good read.
Rat Park a fascinating series of experiments on drug addiction. Pointing out that maybe lab rats become addicted because their lives suck, and what is their drug use behavior when their lives don't suck? It points to the idea that making people's lives suck less may be a useful tactic in decreasing the problems with drug use.
And one just for fun: The Table of Condiments that Periodically Go Bad.