Why I don't date white men Vol. 4,592,145,387
*Idiot Dislcaimer*- Leo8280 does not discriminate based on race, gender, nationality, ethnic origin, native language, socioeconomic status (though your ass better have a job!), level of formal education and/or sexual orientation. Exceptions to this policy include: religion (I don't convert...especially not to Islam), stupidity/willfull igorance, and men who have sex with other men.
As some of you are very much aware, I've been 'not dating' Coke Daddy for over a year. And, as some of you also know, he made the mistake of referring to my past choice of partners as me being "used to that n****r dick" (all edits mine because I don't like the fucking word). That was last June. I told him then, in no uncertain terms, that, should he make that particular mistake again, not only would I never speak to him again, I might inflict specific bodily harm.
Apparently, he thought I was joking.
I wasn't.
Tuesday morning, he began crying because I hadn't answered the +/-100 text messages he had sent me (from his bedroom, just on the other side of the wall from mine) because, as I've pointed out numerous times, the phone I got in February is not loud enough/does not vibrate strongly enough to wake me. Especially when he kept me up all night Sat and Sun and I was up all day Sun and spent Mon at a funeral. I was also trying to decide whether or not to go to Houston for the CPS interview.
Over the course of the last 2 months, I've told him that if he wants to wake me, to knock on the wall. I'm just on the other side. That will wake me. So, Tuesday morning I asked "Did you knock on the wall?"
"I am not going 2 be knockn on walls. That is some crazzy ass n****r shit. That is what they do." [emphasis mine]
At this point, I said no more. One would think that, knowing what he already knows, he would have the good sense to take the hint and leave me the fuck alone. But, when have white men ever been known for their good sense?
He continues for an hour before I say "Apparently you thought I was joking"
"About?"
"Your use of that word."
"I am from south texas and u know the way i am" I am from South Texas, too, motherfucker. Not to mention, my 76 year old grandfather? Also from the South? Yeah, HE DOES NOT USE THAT WORD. If he can change? You've got NO. EXCUSE.
"Look in the mirror, u r white." Really? I would have never known. Thanks for the memo, dumbfuck.
"Since u think i am a racist, redneck, delete my number and don't ever call or text me" Um, 1. I had already stopped. 2. "Delete my number"? Stupid fuck, I know your number. Deleting it doesn't erase it from my memory (Oh, what I wouldn't give for a Gilderoy Lockhart "Obliviate"!!!). 3. You. Live. Next. Door. If only getting away were that simple.
You'd think that's the end, right?
Of course not. When does a white man stop while he's behind?
He then goes on to defend his use of the word "Because nigger is just a word. It means not intelligent. That is why i said it." Apparently, John also means "not intelligent" because I know the definition of the word. And, rest assured, that is not what it means. I called and left the definition, including the disclaimer that labels the word "offensive, contemptible and hostile" as a voicemail.
La piece de resistance? It was your choice to sleep with a n****r. Don't throw crazy shit in my face [the crazy shit referenced: his mixed neice that he dotes on and my mixed daughter]. u know how i feel and think about that. No, bitch. I didn't. Because, had I known you somehow thought that me sleeping with a Black man (Mind you...it's okay for either of us to sleep with a Black woman...he dated one for over a year...) made me 'less than' that cokehead whore who killed your child? You would have gotten NO WHERE NEAR ME. Nor would I have spent the last year trying to keep a few of my friends (Black, male) from beating the hell out of you for your attitude at work.
It all ends with him calling me "white trash" for finding that word offensive.
This kind of shit? That is why I don't date white guys. I find, as a rule (with a rare exception), they are privileged, close minded bigots. Especially when it comes to, specifically, white women dating/marrying/loving/procreating with Black men.
Am I surprised? Of course not.
But, dammit, it doesn't make it any less disappointing or hurtful.
I have given him all and then some...as many of you well know. I've taken all kinds of shit for dating him....even from my white, male father. Yes. That's right. Even daddy didn't like the honky.
It'll be a very long time before I let another white man get that close. My daughter has to deal with racist pricks (of all shades) every day when she walks out the door. I'll be damned if she's going to have it waiting for her when she comes home.
As some of you are very much aware, I've been 'not dating' Coke Daddy for over a year. And, as some of you also know, he made the mistake of referring to my past choice of partners as me being "used to that n****r dick" (all edits mine because I don't like the fucking word). That was last June. I told him then, in no uncertain terms, that, should he make that particular mistake again, not only would I never speak to him again, I might inflict specific bodily harm.
Apparently, he thought I was joking.
I wasn't.
Tuesday morning, he began crying because I hadn't answered the +/-100 text messages he had sent me (from his bedroom, just on the other side of the wall from mine) because, as I've pointed out numerous times, the phone I got in February is not loud enough/does not vibrate strongly enough to wake me. Especially when he kept me up all night Sat and Sun and I was up all day Sun and spent Mon at a funeral. I was also trying to decide whether or not to go to Houston for the CPS interview.
Over the course of the last 2 months, I've told him that if he wants to wake me, to knock on the wall. I'm just on the other side. That will wake me. So, Tuesday morning I asked "Did you knock on the wall?"
"I am not going 2 be knockn on walls. That is some crazzy ass n****r shit. That is what they do." [emphasis mine]
At this point, I said no more. One would think that, knowing what he already knows, he would have the good sense to take the hint and leave me the fuck alone. But, when have white men ever been known for their good sense?
He continues for an hour before I say "Apparently you thought I was joking"
"About?"
"Your use of that word."
"I am from south texas and u know the way i am" I am from South Texas, too, motherfucker. Not to mention, my 76 year old grandfather? Also from the South? Yeah, HE DOES NOT USE THAT WORD. If he can change? You've got NO. EXCUSE.
"Look in the mirror, u r white." Really? I would have never known. Thanks for the memo, dumbfuck.
"Since u think i am a racist, redneck, delete my number and don't ever call or text me" Um, 1. I had already stopped. 2. "Delete my number"? Stupid fuck, I know your number. Deleting it doesn't erase it from my memory (Oh, what I wouldn't give for a Gilderoy Lockhart "Obliviate"!!!). 3. You. Live. Next. Door. If only getting away were that simple.
You'd think that's the end, right?
Of course not. When does a white man stop while he's behind?
He then goes on to defend his use of the word "Because nigger is just a word. It means not intelligent. That is why i said it." Apparently, John also means "not intelligent" because I know the definition of the word. And, rest assured, that is not what it means. I called and left the definition, including the disclaimer that labels the word "offensive, contemptible and hostile" as a voicemail.
La piece de resistance? It was your choice to sleep with a n****r. Don't throw crazy shit in my face [the crazy shit referenced: his mixed neice that he dotes on and my mixed daughter]. u know how i feel and think about that. No, bitch. I didn't. Because, had I known you somehow thought that me sleeping with a Black man (Mind you...it's okay for either of us to sleep with a Black woman...he dated one for over a year...) made me 'less than' that cokehead whore who killed your child? You would have gotten NO WHERE NEAR ME. Nor would I have spent the last year trying to keep a few of my friends (Black, male) from beating the hell out of you for your attitude at work.
It all ends with him calling me "white trash" for finding that word offensive.
This kind of shit? That is why I don't date white guys. I find, as a rule (with a rare exception), they are privileged, close minded bigots. Especially when it comes to, specifically, white women dating/marrying/loving/procreating with Black men.
Am I surprised? Of course not.
But, dammit, it doesn't make it any less disappointing or hurtful.
I have given him all and then some...as many of you well know. I've taken all kinds of shit for dating him....even from my white, male father. Yes. That's right. Even daddy didn't like the honky.
It'll be a very long time before I let another white man get that close. My daughter has to deal with racist pricks (of all shades) every day when she walks out the door. I'll be damned if she's going to have it waiting for her when she comes home.