"Senta Rinaldi. Senta. You and me we've made a separate peace."
"Villalta became one with the bull and then it was all over. Villalta standing straight and the red hilt of the sword sticking out dully between the bull's shoulders. Villalta, his hand up at the crowd and the bull roaring blood, looking straight at Villalta and his legs caving
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Kidding of course, although there are a handful of women who actually do think that way. Most are just naturally reacting to the fact that you're relaxed, not on the prowl. I've seen your picture, I've told you before how lucky I think Renee is. You're not only intelligent and have manners (and honor, respect, courtesy, responsibility, stability...), but you're good looking as all get out, too. Why wouldn't they respond with open admiration? Even the ones who aren't overtly responding to you are responding - they're just better at keeping it to themselves.
As to the one girl - you asked what she was thinking. Well dear, what were YOU thinking? I mean, come on. You freely admit that there's a natural attraction, but that you make a choice to avoid it. I imagine she was simply enjoying a moment of connection with another person, and enjoying the daydream. It goes a little something like this:
Here's a great looking guy (and I bet you smell good, too) with a brain in his head. He's really nice, and seems to be responsible and self-sufficient. He's a terrific catch! And he seems to be interested in me. (Not assuming you're on the prowl, hold on a minute.)
In a nice girl's mind, this is confirmation that she is pretty enough, smart enough, witty enough to attract a guy like you. And THIS means that she can take that experience and knowledge and feel confident that she is appealing to the kind of guy she'd like to match up with.
Get it?
And not all flirting is intentional flirting, my dear. I'm accused of being a huge flirt on a regular basis, and my reaction is almost always to say "I wasn't flirting!" Because I wasn't! Not that deliberate kind of flirt, anyway. It's just the natural way I talk to people, unless they're freaking me out in some way.
And good for you, for recognizing a potentially "dangerous" situation and backing away. This is the part of marriage that some guys never understand, or if they do, choose to follow a desire rather than a committment. Only those to whom Honor truly means something automatically make this choice. I never doubted you for a second.
Sorry it took me so long to respond - I read your post almost immediately, but that stupid speech was killing me for two whole weeks.
Hugs,
Gypsy
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