learning a lesson through someone else
so, tonight was going to be a boring night. very possibly still will be. but over the past couple hours, i've had a valuable lesson pounded once again into my brain. unfortunately, it was at the expense of a good friend of mine. i'll call her Mary for the sake of her privacy, since i'm going to post this public.
so i'm talking to humblepower online. long story short, he says that mary invited him to go clubbing with her and a couple friends, but then suddenly says that they cancelled the clubbing expedition and mary asks what lauren is up to. humblepower asks me, and i tell him not much, but if they want to drive down, we could definately get into some good trouble. so he's playing email tag with mary trying to see if she wants to do that, and i decide to give him mary's phone number to expidite things [her boyfriend's phone number - that's where she is]. he calls, mary acts weird, and says she wants me to call her. when i do, apparently her boyfriend is really really pissed [and jealous?] that she would want to hang out with humblepower at all [though he's never met him], and he's pissed that i gave humblepower his phone number. so we talk, and i tell her just do what she wants. the boyfriend already cancelled the clubbing she wanted to do. i tell her to just come down - let the boyfriend cool off, realize that he's way too upset over something he shouldn't be so insecure and upset about. she says she'll try but SHE DOESN'T KNOW IF SHE'LL BE ALLOWED. what!?! she has to ask PERMISSION from her boyfriend? she says she'll talk to him, and call me back. i say whatever. call me back.
an hour later, she calls back. she says they fought for a long time, but then they worked things out. everything's ok now - really. he says he won't try to tell her what she can and can't do anymore. so i ask her: that means you're coming down tonight then, right? wrong. basically, they're not fighting anymore because she gave in and is doing exactly what he wanted to do at the beginning of the evening - though that's not how she sees it, of course. i can't know for sure because i wasn't there, but however it went down exactly, the lesson learned here is: if the guy is so insecure he ends trying to be controlling, GET THE FUCK OUT.
so i'm talking to humblepower online. long story short, he says that mary invited him to go clubbing with her and a couple friends, but then suddenly says that they cancelled the clubbing expedition and mary asks what lauren is up to. humblepower asks me, and i tell him not much, but if they want to drive down, we could definately get into some good trouble. so he's playing email tag with mary trying to see if she wants to do that, and i decide to give him mary's phone number to expidite things [her boyfriend's phone number - that's where she is]. he calls, mary acts weird, and says she wants me to call her. when i do, apparently her boyfriend is really really pissed [and jealous?] that she would want to hang out with humblepower at all [though he's never met him], and he's pissed that i gave humblepower his phone number. so we talk, and i tell her just do what she wants. the boyfriend already cancelled the clubbing she wanted to do. i tell her to just come down - let the boyfriend cool off, realize that he's way too upset over something he shouldn't be so insecure and upset about. she says she'll try but SHE DOESN'T KNOW IF SHE'LL BE ALLOWED. what!?! she has to ask PERMISSION from her boyfriend? she says she'll talk to him, and call me back. i say whatever. call me back.
an hour later, she calls back. she says they fought for a long time, but then they worked things out. everything's ok now - really. he says he won't try to tell her what she can and can't do anymore. so i ask her: that means you're coming down tonight then, right? wrong. basically, they're not fighting anymore because she gave in and is doing exactly what he wanted to do at the beginning of the evening - though that's not how she sees it, of course. i can't know for sure because i wasn't there, but however it went down exactly, the lesson learned here is: if the guy is so insecure he ends trying to be controlling, GET THE FUCK OUT.