Honor thy father and thy mother

[lemonfresh76]

Actually I thought with my mom away I don't have much to worry about or at least argue about since my dad doesn't really seem to care as much because he knows I'm old enough to take care of myself. Things were going well but then last night my dad flipped out on me because I didn't want to compromise my values. To others it's not a big deal and they think that I should make my dad happy and do as he tells me but then I don't believe and it and I refused to do it. It was the same argument I was having with my mom when she was here. So he flipped out and yelled at me in front of our relatives. And the funny thing was everyone was scared and couldn't figure out why he got as mad as he did. So he yelled and said that if I didn't do it he would have nothing to do with me and don't bother coming home. I took it well. Didn't yell back or cried. I went back and talked to my aunt. Then a few minutes later he approached me again and started yelling at me. I really didn't have anyone to defend me and he was just yelling. Everyone acted like they were doing their usual thing but then they all sat and heared everything that my dad said to me. 1 of my aunts was telling my other aunt to come and end it but she said that he agrees with my dad and let him teach me my lesson. So it was an interesting division. Like there were people that agreed with my dad and thought I should do as he told me others that agreed with me because we have similar beliefs but then to have to yell at me the way he did in front of everyone kind of made them lost more respect for him. Then finally aunt Farah tried to defend me a bit. But then my great aunt came and so my dad didn't want to get her involved and so he back off but I knew that he was still upset. So at that point my other aunts came up and starting feeling sorry for me. And they tried to comfort me. And they were saying how they couldn't figure out why we would have reacted that badly. So I talked with them for a bit longer and then left but when I left I said goodbye to my aunts and left. I thought that my dad would have overheard but he didn't. So on my way home I was talking on the phone with other aunt that wasn't there and told her everything that happened. And I guess my dad called me 3 times and I didn't know. So when I was off the phone with her I then realized that he called and called him back and he asked me why I left and didn't bother to tell anyone. I told him that's not true I did and then he asked why I didn't say anything to him and I said that I figured he needed to cool off and didn't want to say anything.

At first I didn't know if it would be a good idea for me to go home. I was thinking of not coming home but then my aunts were talking me out of it and said that I should go home and if he threatened to kick me out again then I should leave. So I did.

Then when he woke up today he started to act like nothing was wrong like usual but I guess he decided he had other things that he didn't get out. So he brought it up again. He even started crying. And it did make things harder for me but like my mom he has to know that I'm old enough to make my own decision and can't just force me to do things that they wanted me to do.

After he went to work he called me up and apologized saying that he knew he went too far last night was wanted to say sorry. So my dad is funny like that. You just don't know what to expect from him.

I love my dad very much. I know that I'm a handful and at times like this I really don't want to do things to make them upset. And it does hurt me so much to see them upset but I just can't do it. But then I figured out that it must have been someone that approached my dad about it and made him upset with me because he flipped out the way he did. Normally he doesn't pay attention to it but when someone brings things to his attention, like my mom does most of the time, that's when it starts getting to him.