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[leka_moya]

You know what really ticks me off? People who act like waiters - and people in other service jobs - are untermensch. Who the hell do they think they are, acting like that, as if this is still the eighteen hundreds and there's still a class society? News call, fattie: just because you have the money to stuff yourself at a restaurant, you are NOT

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[leka_moya]

No, the clubbing-experience was ruined for me. Simon's was cut short, but he wasn't humiliated and objectified, like I was.

Have you ever had an older person approach you and proposition you come to their hotel-room for a drink, also known as sex? Have you ever had them insist on this?

Have you ever had someone stare at your crotch and say "great package!"?

Have you ever had someone willfully grab a body part in a sexual and power-displaying manner? And not only grab, but look you in the face while they did it? And had them try and hold you back?

If you haven't experienced any of this, you don't really understand what it's like to be objectified and you're not able to relate to my feelings about this issue. It doesn't really have anything to do with you being masculine or cynical.

But this is something you can be more aware of: feeling objectified makes me feel scared, sad and angry. It's not something that's easy to ignore. And I don't feel like I should have to, either. When you say that you would have ignored it makes me feel bad for not having been able to, and that's not right.

[purpletophat]

::hugs:: I'm so sorry I didn't mention this. I normally do, but I think my head was a bit scattered. France does have some serious "flirting" issues. To the point where it's no longer just flirting, but attacking the other person. It happened to me on the street, in stores, in malls--men just run headlong into you and start literally imposing themselves on you. Invading your personal space, touching, propositioning, acting as though *you* were lucky to be on the receiving end of their advances. And beware when you tell them no, they're vindictive. AUGH. It's sort of second nature to me when I go back to France now--I never look, however accidentally, at men on the street. -__-

[leka_moya]

It's okay, I already knew. Heh. I'm a bit lucky with my build and height - I'm rarely targeted by men, so to say, because in most cases I'm bigger than them and I suppose they don't think that's very attractive. :P
But the few times it has happened it's been really uncomfortable. And the groping, oh man, that was just disgusting. *shudder*

[purpletophat]

Woo? How tall are you? One of my best friends is almost 6'1 (185 centimeters--I don't know if you use the metric system :D), and although she tends to intimidate men, some brave--or suicidal--souls have tried. XD

[leka_moya]

We use the metric. Metric = ftw. I'm 183 centimeters and I weigh about 87 kilos so I'm not exactly waifish, to say at the least. :D I like being like this, it makes me feel like a sturdy viking. (But in reality, I'm actually really weak! But that's a secret).

I get it from my Dad - he's 204 centimeters. o.o

[purpletophat]

Eee. You tall strong Vikings! :D

I think I'm about 162 cm. ^^; Funny because both my parents are relatively tall, Mom especially, for an Asian woman. Ah well.