I did it. Next destination -> Munich
I guess that yesterday was a historical day in my life. Yesterday I've got an answer from the Munich Innovation Group and they wrote me the following:
"Thank you for the interesting and friendly conversation.
We have gained a positive impression of you and we would like to
welcome you from March 1st 2014 to July 31st 2014 in our team."
So I did it. Now I need to set up all bureaucracy moments, plan, organize and work hard. But it is what I love to do :) Now I have a defined vector, a concrete goal and that's great, I am happy. I am so glad that all my decision making brought me here and it is going to be even better in future. And I am so proud that I did it by myself!
It is also an important change because maybe then I just will stay to live in Munich. We'll see. And I already have a great friends there, that's awesome.
So now I will set up everything with my Uni and start to search for a flat. Wow, crazy.
But I also realise that it will not be easy, this goal is reached but it brings even more challenges to be accomplished. I have read a great article about that, I share it below. So I enjoy the process and I can update my
- Увидеть океан
- To visit Nice, Dublin, US and India
- Прыгнуть с парашютом или полетать с парапланом
- To talk in Italian as a native speaker - I think it is possible only if you live in a country all your life, so let's change it to "fluently", close to it!
- To make my parents visit me in Trento
- To talk in German fluently
- Always be surrounded by a great people
- To graduate from University of Trento in October 2014 with a good grade
- To program well in C# and java
- To dance freely salsa and bachata
- Выйти замуж и родить ребенка до 30
- To find a work in Europe - partly, inteship in Munich. So let's change it to "full time great job in Europe"
- Любить и быть любимой тем самым моим мужчиной
- To buy a good photo camera
- Заниматься спортом, выглядеть охрененно и весить меньше 63 кг :)
- To keep being financially independent
Happiness Myth No. 8: You’ll Be Happy As Soon As You…
As I’ve studied happiness over the past few years, I’ve learned many things that surprised me. Each day for two weeks, I’ve been debunking one “happiness myth” that I believed before I started my happiness project. Yesterday I wrote about Myth No. 7: Doing “Random Acts of Kindness” Brings Happiness.
We often imagine that we’ll be happy as soon as we get a job/make partner/get tenure/get married/get that promotion/have a baby/move. As a writer, I often find myself imagining some happy future: “Once I sell this proposal…” or “Once this book comes out…”
In his book Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar calls this the “arrival fallacy,” the belief that when you arrive at a certain destination, you’ll be happy. (Other fallacies include the “floating world fallacy,” the belief that immediate pleasure, cut off from future purpose, can bring happiness, and the “nihilism fallacy,” the belief that it’s not possible to become happier.) The arrival fallacy is a fallacy because arriving rarely makes you as happy as you expect.
Why? Because usually by the time you’ve arrived at your destination, you’re expecting to reach it, so it has already been incorporated into your happiness. You quickly become adjusted to the new state of affairs. And of course, arriving at one goal usually reveals a new goal. There’s another hill to climb.
In fact, working toward a goal can be a more powerful source of happiness than hitting it - which can sometimes be a letdown. It’s important, therefore, to look for happiness in the present, in the atmosphere of growth afforded by making gradual progress toward a goal (technical name: pre-goal attainment positive affect).
When I find myself focusing overmuch on the anticipated future happiness of arriving at a certain goal (as I often do), I remind myself to “Enjoy now.” If I can enjoy the present, I don’t need to count on the happiness that is - or isn’t - waiting for me in the future. The fun part doesn’t come later, now is the fun part.
So the arrival fallacy doesn’t mean that pursuing goals isn’t a route to happiness. To the contrary. The goal is necessary, just as is the process toward the goal. Nietzche explained it: “The end of a melody is not its goal; but nonetheless, if the melody had not reached its end it would not have reached its goal either. A parable.”
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