Results of my "study"
So, I mentioned it earlier and I want to get feedback for the three of you that might still read my journal. Here we go, this isn't judgmental or accusatory, I am not making value judgments or anything.
The question that was asked:
Do you know what day it is a month from now?
Now, this question's answer is Valentine's Day (if this were asked on the 14th of January), but I thought that the question was so loaded that not many or anyone at all would guess the answer, much less take the chance to answer it.
The statement was made that men would never answer it because they are not all that bright (and I am nerfing the original statement). I asked 25 men from all sorts of areas of my own life, from acquaintances to friends and obtained their answer.
All of the men in question would have never seen that answer as Valentine's Day. In fact, most of them would have replied with the actual day in question (the 14th) but never make the leap to Valentine's Day. Half of them expressed fear of the question in itself and would answer with some caution, feeling out the situation to make sure they weren't walking into a trap. A few wouldn't even answer and instead, get an adult beverage to ignore the question completely.
Of the 10 women that I asked, I posed the question this way. If you were going to remind someone that Valentine's Day was a month away, what would you say or do? All of them did not come anywhere near the original question. They asked questions that were full of hints or even came out and made the statement that Valentine's Day was a month away. When asked Would you ever ask [the original question]?, they said that they would have never thought of asking it that way and knew that they were going to get a hedged response if they ever got one.
So, after crunching this data and pondering it completely, I have come to my own determination that the question, while having better intentions, was posed incorrectly. The question could have been rephrased in order to be more generous with people's fear or barriers.
I am not saying that this person is wrong, I am just saying the question was incorrect. I still may be a "dumb male" after all of this, but I am glad that I am not in the minority when responding to this question originally.
reyvin, I am not sure if you want to pass this along or if your friend cares or not (I am guessing she probably won't and will tell me I am an idiot anyway), but if you want to do so I will leave it public for her to see.
Thoughts? Opinions? Should I shut up and leave you all be?
The question that was asked:
Do you know what day it is a month from now?
Now, this question's answer is Valentine's Day (if this were asked on the 14th of January), but I thought that the question was so loaded that not many or anyone at all would guess the answer, much less take the chance to answer it.
The statement was made that men would never answer it because they are not all that bright (and I am nerfing the original statement). I asked 25 men from all sorts of areas of my own life, from acquaintances to friends and obtained their answer.
All of the men in question would have never seen that answer as Valentine's Day. In fact, most of them would have replied with the actual day in question (the 14th) but never make the leap to Valentine's Day. Half of them expressed fear of the question in itself and would answer with some caution, feeling out the situation to make sure they weren't walking into a trap. A few wouldn't even answer and instead, get an adult beverage to ignore the question completely.
Of the 10 women that I asked, I posed the question this way. If you were going to remind someone that Valentine's Day was a month away, what would you say or do? All of them did not come anywhere near the original question. They asked questions that were full of hints or even came out and made the statement that Valentine's Day was a month away. When asked Would you ever ask [the original question]?, they said that they would have never thought of asking it that way and knew that they were going to get a hedged response if they ever got one.
So, after crunching this data and pondering it completely, I have come to my own determination that the question, while having better intentions, was posed incorrectly. The question could have been rephrased in order to be more generous with people's fear or barriers.
I am not saying that this person is wrong, I am just saying the question was incorrect. I still may be a "dumb male" after all of this, but I am glad that I am not in the minority when responding to this question originally.
reyvin, I am not sure if you want to pass this along or if your friend cares or not (I am guessing she probably won't and will tell me I am an idiot anyway), but if you want to do so I will leave it public for her to see.
Thoughts? Opinions? Should I shut up and leave you all be?