Understanding Asexuality

[leifang666]

So another educational post, I can't help myself! I just want to explain a few misunderstood subjects.

What is asexuality?It's commonly believed that asexuality is the absence of sexual desire, which it can be but it's a little more complicated than that. On the sexuality scale you have people who like men on one end, and people who like women on

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[puss_nd_boots]

I'm still trying to figure out just where I fall on the spectrum of colors and alphabet soup. I do know that I'm probably closer to being aromantic than being truly ace - because I have never had any desire to be In A Relationship. It always baffled me why other girls spent all their time trying to trap and catch men like plants catching flies, and I always longed to see a character like me on television - someone who wasn't in a relationship, wasn't seeking a relationship, and was okay with that. (In fact, I remember a couple of times seeing supporting characters on TV who never seemed to date - and then, there'd be a one-off episode where that character met That Certain Someone, and I felt betrayed). It took me a long time to figure out that I was somewhere in the soup and on the spectrum, because there are SO many shades of gray where sexuality and romantic attraction are concerned - and what was causing my confusion was the fact that there were relationships I could enjoy in the media (mostly yaoi), and I love writing romance (as you can tell from my fanfics, which are ALL romance/smut), but I also figured out that what you enjoy writing/reading about/watching isn't necessarily what you want to DO, or what you want for yourself. (You don't exactly see horror fans committing murder sprees!)

[leifang666]

Well yes, my love for Battle Royale is proof that what we like isn't what we want in RL. I've noticed as well that the kind of guys that I love in drama's are also the exact opposite of who I would hang out with in RL.

I think it's easy to name male character's who don't show romantic interest, but the idea of a woman not looking for romance is so alien in media that they're hard to come by. Even characters like Katniss (Hunger Games), who focus on survival and family first end up falling in love. Alice from the newer Alice in Wonderland/Alice through the looking glass however manages to have a male friend without falling in love. Mainly because they aged a child into a young lady but kept the same personality.