So I've been thinking about the tendency to be judgemental this week...not for any particular reason except that the subject came up in a conversation with a friend this week
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I think there is a big difference between using good judgment and being judgmental. We do always need to exercise good judgment. However, when it concerns how other people live their own lives, even the mistakes they make, usually do not require a good deal of judgment from us...simply to stay out of their way when they would harm us and encourage them to always make good choices.
I do not believe that there is ever a call for being judgmental though. And in fact, being judgmental often causes as many problems as already exist. In my experience, people can sense judgment in other people from a mile away. Maybe we are not in a position to change that person's life or bad behaivors, but when we are judgmental we cut off all possibility of helping that person. The other problem with being judgmental is that opinions quickly being inflated. Few people in the world, if any, are 100% evil, but when most of us begin to judge we seem to forget that. We ignore those good things and by so doing miss the opportunity to appreciate and encourage that goodness.
And I do genuinely believe that a big part of judgmental attitude is about entertainment and self-gratification.
Sorry if my response seems harsh, but this same argument has been used on me before to justify what was essentially judgmental behavior. A lot of harm and pain has been caused by that behavior, so I am wary of any, any rationalization towards the judgmental.
Thanks for the comment though. We shall have to agree to disagree, I suppose. :D
I do not believe that there is ever a call for being judgmental though. And in fact, being judgmental often causes as many problems as already exist. In my experience, people can sense judgment in other people from a mile away. Maybe we are not in a position to change that person's life or bad behaivors, but when we are judgmental we cut off all possibility of helping that person. The other problem with being judgmental is that opinions quickly being inflated. Few people in the world, if any, are 100% evil, but when most of us begin to judge we seem to forget that. We ignore those good things and by so doing miss the opportunity to appreciate and encourage that goodness.
And I do genuinely believe that a big part of judgmental attitude is about entertainment and self-gratification.
Sorry if my response seems harsh, but this same argument has been used on me before to justify what was essentially judgmental behavior. A lot of harm and pain has been caused by that behavior, so I am wary of any, any rationalization towards the judgmental.
Thanks for the comment though. We shall have to agree to disagree, I suppose. :D
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