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[leaelyse]

How many people out there were cheated on and still took the person back?

Better yet, how many people out there had their lovers cheat on them with an ex and you STILL took them back?

Just curious...

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[ceramufary]

A lady I know has never been able to be faithful. Scars or just personality makeup, I don't know why, but she just isn't. She finally has begun a relationship where she said upfront, "I don't stay in my own yard. If that's a problem, then there's the door, but I am NOT going to change and I don't want the heartache of pretending that I am." Her Other accepted of his own free will, and things have gone well.

I very nearly cheated on the one I love, but came to my senses and revealed my plans in an honest and frank conversation without hiding anything. Life was rough for a few days, but because I'd been able to discuss honestly, no lasting harm was done -- because it's the Marriage of True Minds that is vital, rather than the expression made with the body.

I agree with a lot of the comments here. If the one you love has made agreements with you to refrain from being with others, and then goes back on that -- then they are showing either that they have little willpower in which case helping them LEARN might be an answer, or they have little respect for you, in which case it is probably time to show them the door. Her intentions, her TRUE intentions, must be considered. But actions do speak louder than words; if the one you love is showing you with every move they make that they do not think you are important enough to curtail their behavior... that's just pure disrespect, and for me that's a dealbreaker.

Thanks for letting me comment.