As a kid, I played Ninja Turtles with the boys on the playground, but I also played Barbies with my sister at home and made up stories with girlfriends about meeting our prince
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i think some women do overract in some situations and make irrational statements and actions. but i think some women simply react on a level equal to how the relationship ended or the guy treated them, confused and unfair. i admit to acting immmature in situations like that, but there was no way to compete with how much of an idiot my former bf had been and made me feel. my heart definitely wasn't healed but i felt better. i know that's a ridulous way to reason, but sometimes it's hard to think clearly when your emotions are involved. also, i think men are just as guilty if not worse in this regard. anyway, i think most times it's just fun and not meant to be harmful anyway.
when i was a kid i had the same duality as you did. i loved girly things and didn't deny it, but i was totally resistant to any sexist assumption that was being forced on me. ie--i wore slacks instead of skirts at school functions, demanded blue when i was handed something pink.
i know most people would like to think men and women are equal now, but that is far from reality. there's a lot of work to be done. i hate that people are so afraid of the word 'feminism' and attach negativity. there are so many different types and eras of feminism, but the basic definition is "the belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes'... ANYONE who thinks men and women should be treated equally.
sorry, i could talk about this for days...so i'll stop :]
i hate that people are so afraid of the word 'feminism' and attach negativity.
exactly. which is why I worry that some behavior (such as childish pranks) women follow in the name of strong independence ends up sending out the wrong message or defeats their initial reasoning. I also get sick of the trend that only one person is wrong in a relationship and that the woman is the victim (I'm speaking in the very broad sense here. I know nothing about your past experiences. And of course I know it does happen. I just try to think about it as two people communicating positively/negatively. I say things like "dudes are stupid" probably too often to even be writing this).
I also don't doubt for a second that there are some emotional acts that do and are necessary in leveling the playing field!
and I could talk about this forever so I, too, will stop :)
when i was a kid i had the same duality as you did. i loved girly things and didn't deny it, but i was totally resistant to any sexist assumption that was being forced on me. ie--i wore slacks instead of skirts at school functions, demanded blue when i was handed something pink.
i know most people would like to think men and women are equal now, but that is far from reality. there's a lot of work to be done. i hate that people are so afraid of the word 'feminism' and attach negativity. there are so many different types and eras of feminism, but the basic definition is "the belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes'... ANYONE who thinks men and women should be treated equally.
sorry, i could talk about this for days...so i'll stop :]
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exactly. which is why I worry that some behavior (such as childish pranks) women follow in the name of strong independence ends up sending out the wrong message or defeats their initial reasoning. I also get sick of the trend that only one person is wrong in a relationship and that the woman is the victim (I'm speaking in the very broad sense here. I know nothing about your past experiences. And of course I know it does happen. I just try to think about it as two people communicating positively/negatively. I say things like "dudes are stupid" probably too often to even be writing this).
I also don't doubt for a second that there are some emotional acts that do and are necessary in leveling the playing field!
and I could talk about this forever so I, too, will stop :)
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