i'm going to keep linking

[lcohen]

here. this post expresses some more of what i've been trying to get at, but much more eloquently than i've been achieving:

http://saoba.livejournal.com/191457.html?view=1175777&style=mine

i think a lot of people are getting stuck at "those other people are jerks" or "someone is calling me a jerk." anyone can find an axis to be a jerk on--the point is to learn how to hear that you are being a jerk and how to stop being a jerk.