The Nonconformist in Love
It's been so long that I've written for myself other than fiction that I almost forgot how to do it. Where to start. What to say. So this seems the best place to do it.
So much has happened to me in the last few years. The arguably biggest news-besides getting my license back after not being able to drive due to the movement disorder (dystonia) I developed from the autoimmune disease-is that I met the love of my life. We've been together almost four years now, mostly in a very peaceful, yet passionate state of loving companionship. Last year, he changed companies and jobs, and we wound up moving down to the southwest part of the state in July. Not long after that, he got a promotion, and not long after that, we decided of course that we wanted to get married.
After several discussions, we decided to forgo traditional jewelry so that we could donate what he would have spent on rings to a charity we both could feel passionate about. So we got matching Seed of Life ring tattoos, and we donated a nice sum to a school for girls in Nepal that helps combat child marriage. We had our own private ceremony where we exchanged vows to one another in a favorite spot in New Hampshire in the fall, but we dithered over what we were going to do about things legally.
To make a long story shorter, we decided we wanted a small ceremony with just our immediate families-parents, siblings and their kids. We miraculously pulled it off in less than a month, and I managed to bring home my brother in California, who hadn't been back back to this part of the country in 6 years, when my niece was just born.
Anyway, it was very lovely and intimate and better than we could have hoped for with such short notice and in December. To continue the untraditional theme, we are planning our reception for this summer, and will likely have a farm-to-table celebration thanks to our buddy, the self-taught farmer. It will be celebratory, yet casual and our closest friends and family will be there. I was rather dragging my heels at having to plan a traditional reception for 100 people, but this feels a lot more "us," more natural and organic than for show, and for all of us, I think it will be a lot of fun.
There is much more I want to write about, but this seemed a fun update to start with after so much time. So much of what I'd written over the years on lj was about my roller coaster of a love life, so it's fitting that you get to hear about the happy "ending" I never was sure I'd ever have. Of course it really is just the beginning of a long life together, but we are so happy to have found one another and to have not allowed pride to ruin us forever almost three years ago today.
Anyway, I am really looking forward to catching up with all of you again. Facebook just isn't the same, you know?