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Mansfield was, despite being humid enough to cause sweat to ooze from pores we didn't realise we had, a magical experience. It would, I think, have been enhanced had a few other beloved friends been present, but the company we did have was not only amiable, but cuddly and loving as well. ghostlynights aka "My Beloved Donna" was there along with her cousin Jeffy (grin) and someone I had never met before but had wanted to meet for a long time - Kelley. Kelly is adorable, sweet, smart, and seemingly fearless. I am looking forward to seeing her again in the next two haunts we go to. I can't say we had a heck of a lot of activity, the place didn't feel so active to me this, time, although Jeff feels he saw someone look at him and turn and walk down the corridor. I saw two people, both small (compared to me) one with a yellow shirt and one with a white shirt. They were both in cells. Someone grabbed Donna's butt (I had that happen last year), if you could see Donna's butt you'd know why they picked her. Chris (yakumofujii had someone brush up against him and I had someone play with the things I was carrying. I also had a "conversation" with a rather shy man named John (or Don?) or Paul. I have yet to go through the evp I took. My first run through of digital photos didn't give much except a few bright orbs that I do not feel are dust of moisture. I don't believe they are insects either, merely because of the shape. Chris has a very swift movement across one of his video caps and I am looking forward to showing it to a few people we know to get another unbiased opinion. I have video as well - not much, but it should be checked in case there is something.
Last March I brought Boy and Bunny down to Chris's place and we stayed for about 3 weeks. It was a nice visit. Boy liked being there, but did not appreciate the long drive. I can respect that. It turns out his girlfriend comes for a month yearly to Muncie (note: one hour from Fort Wayne), so Boy will be meeting her in person next year. The young love has gone on for the past 8 or 9 months now. While in Fort Wayne, Boy became bartender Extraordinaire by mixing concoctions that would make a grown man woman weep.
In May/June Bunny and I came down together and really enjoyed out mother-daughter bonding. I miss her a lot now because of that. She made me fewer drinks, but they kept coming. We shopped, lazed and laughed, restaurant-ed and conversed, and we even hit the Fort Wayne zoo. I lost sunglass clips there - the expensive kind you order with prescription glasses. I had to order more when I got home.
We extended our trip and went up to see Chrysti and the girls. We had plans to shop for head scarves, but we didn't. Instead we watched the storms and when Chrysti was available we would invite her over. She brought the girls one day - they are so precious. It hurts to think of them without their mom. Chrysti's intended, Tim,. is now back in the picture and I'm glad. It was around this time I began to research a little bit about the cancer she has. It's rare, and as her tumour was so much larger than what would have been easy to shift, they said 30% chance of survival. She's an outwardly brave person.. cracking jokes and making light, but the fact is she's terrified. She has "mortality" moments. She is in a hospital for 4-5 days every two weeks getting liquid puke and shit shoved into her beautiful sweet body - for a year. A YEAR! 25 years old. Damn.
So here is a list of outside traumas in my life :
1) Cousin Pam, wedge re-section of breast due to tumour.. Outcome: Lymph nodes in armpits have been moved and traumatised. She now has an intensely swollen arm and has to wear a full length bandage to keep it for getting any larger.
2) Uncle Bill, Aunt Elsie's husband: Skin cancer a while back and now bladder cancer. He had a colonoscopy and they found polyps. They removed them before they became cancerous.
3) Aunt Elsie had a scan and they found a colon mass. She had a scope same time as uncle Bill, thinking she had cancer. It was BARIUM!!! They did find pre-cancerous polyps as well and they have been removed. (She went through breast cancer about 20 years ago).
4) Mom (Aunt Elsie is her sister) was told she may have cancer as well. She has been having a hard time with her own health, she has ankle ulcers which hurt a lot and she is unable to get her leg elevated and rested because my father is so demanding. She is exhausted, literally, and was relieved to get an all clear in her scope. This doesn't help her in other areas including her heart and her back. She's a small woman and she has to lift my father on and off the potty a lot during the day - he seems to have a bladder infection along with everything else. My bother is there a lot of the time, but that doesn't help mom as much as she needs. Dad is very weak and can't help her much when she lifts him. Goddess help us if she goes first. She was looking into Respite Care and I hope that she can get some time to herself. Sometimes just getting to the bathroom can be impossible. I took her to The Briars a few weeks ago for the weekend (have I told this already? no it doesn't look like I have). At that time she had just heard about her sister, and along with the back pain and ankle pain she was a little low, but she did have a good time and is still thanking me for getting her away. We got her a facial, a massage, and after that the pair of us had a pedicure together. I wish we could do it more often, she really did look alive for 2 days - more than she has been in the past year and a half. A fascinating thing happened there. A woman at the next dining table asked us if we were celebrating something (is that why we were there). She said she was: after 35 years of marriage she had just successfully donated a kidney to her husband. After 35 YEARS! It's as if The Fates said "Yeah, let's put those two together, it will be useful later on!" She was his match, otherwise he'd be gone now. 8 months in it is still working, so they took a romantic trip. With all the crap a person has to deal with, what a beautiful story. I will never forget them.
5) Before we left for The Briars mom got word that my dad's sister in law has endomitrial cancer. WTF???
6) D'Arcey (one of my rats) has some skin issues and blood in her urine, it may have to do with her kidneys, or she may have diabetes.
7) My mom's brother's wife is losing her faculties and may need to go into a home, that's very sad for us as Aunt Leone (AL) is so perky, kind of a farmer's wife type.
8) While away mom shared some news with me which is so incredible that I am still reeling from it. I can't share what that news is as it is a literal life and death thing, but it really goes to show that you should trust your instincts about those you love even when actions seem to contradict that.
9) My beloved and delightful MJ (Chris's grandmother) is carrying a lot of pain right now, and I feel so badly for her, I wish things would sort themselves. She deserves better.
10) Chrysti had received the news that her tumour was flattening, it will be another three weeks or more before she has an appointment to get more scans done. After that a specialist will determine whether or not surgery is still an option. I was happy about this until I found out that she was getting more pain in her shoulder which was identical to the pain the tumour caused, but it's in a different location. So, yes, more fear, but I still believe - I HAVE to believe - that she will beat this, and after she does we are going on a road trip with loud music, lots of booze, and hot looking men to leer at. And, oh yes, there WILL be puppet porn. She wants to mine her own stones, so we'll find a place and dig for stuff.
11) Something is wrong with my hands, my middle phalanges, mostly. I finally went to see Niall and he sent me for x-rays - nothing. My bones look great. That's good, but what the hell is causing this pain? Dunno, can't go further until middle of August. Need to deal with a few other health issues as well.
12) My emotional health was so bad that I had to beg for a Sabbatical from school. It was easier than I expected, and I can go back when I have a few things off my plate.
There is more, but you need a break and I need food.
I hope everyone is well, I miss you all. *hug*
Last March I brought Boy and Bunny down to Chris's place and we stayed for about 3 weeks. It was a nice visit. Boy liked being there, but did not appreciate the long drive. I can respect that. It turns out his girlfriend comes for a month yearly to Muncie (note: one hour from Fort Wayne), so Boy will be meeting her in person next year. The young love has gone on for the past 8 or 9 months now. While in Fort Wayne, Boy became bartender Extraordinaire by mixing concoctions that would make a grown man woman weep.
In May/June Bunny and I came down together and really enjoyed out mother-daughter bonding. I miss her a lot now because of that. She made me fewer drinks, but they kept coming. We shopped, lazed and laughed, restaurant-ed and conversed, and we even hit the Fort Wayne zoo. I lost sunglass clips there - the expensive kind you order with prescription glasses. I had to order more when I got home.
We extended our trip and went up to see Chrysti and the girls. We had plans to shop for head scarves, but we didn't. Instead we watched the storms and when Chrysti was available we would invite her over. She brought the girls one day - they are so precious. It hurts to think of them without their mom. Chrysti's intended, Tim,. is now back in the picture and I'm glad. It was around this time I began to research a little bit about the cancer she has. It's rare, and as her tumour was so much larger than what would have been easy to shift, they said 30% chance of survival. She's an outwardly brave person.. cracking jokes and making light, but the fact is she's terrified. She has "mortality" moments. She is in a hospital for 4-5 days every two weeks getting liquid puke and shit shoved into her beautiful sweet body - for a year. A YEAR! 25 years old. Damn.
So here is a list of outside traumas in my life :
1) Cousin Pam, wedge re-section of breast due to tumour.. Outcome: Lymph nodes in armpits have been moved and traumatised. She now has an intensely swollen arm and has to wear a full length bandage to keep it for getting any larger.
2) Uncle Bill, Aunt Elsie's husband: Skin cancer a while back and now bladder cancer. He had a colonoscopy and they found polyps. They removed them before they became cancerous.
3) Aunt Elsie had a scan and they found a colon mass. She had a scope same time as uncle Bill, thinking she had cancer. It was BARIUM!!! They did find pre-cancerous polyps as well and they have been removed. (She went through breast cancer about 20 years ago).
4) Mom (Aunt Elsie is her sister) was told she may have cancer as well. She has been having a hard time with her own health, she has ankle ulcers which hurt a lot and she is unable to get her leg elevated and rested because my father is so demanding. She is exhausted, literally, and was relieved to get an all clear in her scope. This doesn't help her in other areas including her heart and her back. She's a small woman and she has to lift my father on and off the potty a lot during the day - he seems to have a bladder infection along with everything else. My bother is there a lot of the time, but that doesn't help mom as much as she needs. Dad is very weak and can't help her much when she lifts him. Goddess help us if she goes first. She was looking into Respite Care and I hope that she can get some time to herself. Sometimes just getting to the bathroom can be impossible. I took her to The Briars a few weeks ago for the weekend (have I told this already? no it doesn't look like I have). At that time she had just heard about her sister, and along with the back pain and ankle pain she was a little low, but she did have a good time and is still thanking me for getting her away. We got her a facial, a massage, and after that the pair of us had a pedicure together. I wish we could do it more often, she really did look alive for 2 days - more than she has been in the past year and a half. A fascinating thing happened there. A woman at the next dining table asked us if we were celebrating something (is that why we were there). She said she was: after 35 years of marriage she had just successfully donated a kidney to her husband. After 35 YEARS! It's as if The Fates said "Yeah, let's put those two together, it will be useful later on!" She was his match, otherwise he'd be gone now. 8 months in it is still working, so they took a romantic trip. With all the crap a person has to deal with, what a beautiful story. I will never forget them.
5) Before we left for The Briars mom got word that my dad's sister in law has endomitrial cancer. WTF???
6) D'Arcey (one of my rats) has some skin issues and blood in her urine, it may have to do with her kidneys, or she may have diabetes.
7) My mom's brother's wife is losing her faculties and may need to go into a home, that's very sad for us as Aunt Leone (AL) is so perky, kind of a farmer's wife type.
8) While away mom shared some news with me which is so incredible that I am still reeling from it. I can't share what that news is as it is a literal life and death thing, but it really goes to show that you should trust your instincts about those you love even when actions seem to contradict that.
9) My beloved and delightful MJ (Chris's grandmother) is carrying a lot of pain right now, and I feel so badly for her, I wish things would sort themselves. She deserves better.
10) Chrysti had received the news that her tumour was flattening, it will be another three weeks or more before she has an appointment to get more scans done. After that a specialist will determine whether or not surgery is still an option. I was happy about this until I found out that she was getting more pain in her shoulder which was identical to the pain the tumour caused, but it's in a different location. So, yes, more fear, but I still believe - I HAVE to believe - that she will beat this, and after she does we are going on a road trip with loud music, lots of booze, and hot looking men to leer at. And, oh yes, there WILL be puppet porn. She wants to mine her own stones, so we'll find a place and dig for stuff.
11) Something is wrong with my hands, my middle phalanges, mostly. I finally went to see Niall and he sent me for x-rays - nothing. My bones look great. That's good, but what the hell is causing this pain? Dunno, can't go further until middle of August. Need to deal with a few other health issues as well.
12) My emotional health was so bad that I had to beg for a Sabbatical from school. It was easier than I expected, and I can go back when I have a few things off my plate.
There is more, but you need a break and I need food.
I hope everyone is well, I miss you all. *hug*