Excuses
I said to myself that I wouldn't devote another blog entry to this issue, but I can't help it. When do we, as adults, take responsibility for our actions in life? How long do we blame others for the failures? Have you ever talked to someone and every other phrase is if this person didn't do this or that? There comes a time in life where you can't blame mommy, daddy or that bad relationship. When do you show up in the decision making and actions in life? What helped me to move on from a bad marriage was taking responsibility for the things I could changed and letting those things go that I couldn't change. Period. If you allow someone to change your values or views on life, this is your fault alone. If you allow someone to hold you back, this is also your fault, no one else's. Take responsibility for your actions. You taught me to never do anything without looking for anything in return. Now that I do it to you, there is a problem. That double standard thing always gets under my skin. Oh, so it was good for you but not for me. It doesn't really matter. It's neither here nor there because you will never get another chance at this. NEVER! I keep hearing Maya Angelou's quote in my head over and over, she keeps me grounded. "If someone shows you who they are, believe them".
Well, I believe you are the person you showed me. I thank you so much for showing that bitch ass side because I seriously needed to see it. No matter how painful it was, I needed it to help me grow. Sometimes I get angry when I think about the past but at the same time I'm so grateful to you. All I ask is that you stop with the excuses. Men should not have a laundry list of excuses. No one should. Take ownership of your actions and the reaction you received due to them. Like I tell you all the time, you can do what you want but you can't control how the person will react. You are a sore loser.
Now about those Madea DVDs, do you have them? Can I get them on the house or what?
Well, I believe you are the person you showed me. I thank you so much for showing that bitch ass side because I seriously needed to see it. No matter how painful it was, I needed it to help me grow. Sometimes I get angry when I think about the past but at the same time I'm so grateful to you. All I ask is that you stop with the excuses. Men should not have a laundry list of excuses. No one should. Take ownership of your actions and the reaction you received due to them. Like I tell you all the time, you can do what you want but you can't control how the person will react. You are a sore loser.
Now about those Madea DVDs, do you have them? Can I get them on the house or what?