Musings for the new year
So, I have finally identified a personality quirk (disorder) in myself that I am positive has damaged my chance at great friendships. I have always known that I blow things out of proportion easily, and I have a tendency to exaggerate, but I never realized how that might affect how I feel about people.
This has mainly been manifesting as me jumping to conclusions about how people feel about one another (either positively or negatively) and then building my own opinion based solely on that conclusion. It has led me in the past to mistreat others because I think those around me don't like them, and I want to garner acceptance for myself. Luckily, my particular group of friends is incredibly forthright and honest, and has always corrected my behavior in passing (like, no I don't feel that way about him/her, they are actually pretty cool, or Nah, I was just mad that one day, so was complaining about them, but actually they are awesome.)
In any case, my goal this year is to stop allowing my imagination to pigeonhole people into subsets, before I really get to know them. I have difficulty getting to know people, and I often use the opinions of others to shape my own, out of laziness, or something, That way, I can just write off people without spending the energy to get to know them. Hopefully, now that I have identified the issue, I will be able to stop doing that!
This has mainly been manifesting as me jumping to conclusions about how people feel about one another (either positively or negatively) and then building my own opinion based solely on that conclusion. It has led me in the past to mistreat others because I think those around me don't like them, and I want to garner acceptance for myself. Luckily, my particular group of friends is incredibly forthright and honest, and has always corrected my behavior in passing (like, no I don't feel that way about him/her, they are actually pretty cool, or Nah, I was just mad that one day, so was complaining about them, but actually they are awesome.)
In any case, my goal this year is to stop allowing my imagination to pigeonhole people into subsets, before I really get to know them. I have difficulty getting to know people, and I often use the opinions of others to shape my own, out of laziness, or something, That way, I can just write off people without spending the energy to get to know them. Hopefully, now that I have identified the issue, I will be able to stop doing that!