hubby sad?
Both last night and this morning, Scott seemed melancholy and quiet. Two days ago, he was frustrated and hurt over his family not accepting an offer to meet us in Pennsylvania in July for vacation. Sometimes he notices distance in their relationships, and says he can't blame them since he's been gone for 18 years but it still hurts him. I know he's been staring at our rental closely since we're having people over. The house has gone from okay to ugly to hideous now. Staring at the flaws of a house always puts him in a bad mood and since we're renting, he's not going to fix it up. That really annoys him.
Lately he's been talking about getting more involved in church. We love our church but it's far. Since I'll be finishing with School on Tuesday (HOORAY!!!), maybe it will be easier to do things with the church. I feel like he's feeling an existential crisis... a lack of purpose and close relationships that make life meaningful. When he's down like this, his best defense is to distract himself - TV, games, or fixing up our house when we had one, which he very much enjoys. Here, with me being busy getting ready for finals and him having no house to work on, there are less distractions. He's starting to exercise more which I'm happy about but he's restless. I feel very sad for him, but I don't think he actively plans how to make his life meaningful to him and these feelings creep up now and again. I wish I could help him work through it. I'd love to see him add things to his life that add meaning. For that reason, I will encourage more activity with the church starting next week. I hope it helps.
Lately he's been talking about getting more involved in church. We love our church but it's far. Since I'll be finishing with School on Tuesday (HOORAY!!!), maybe it will be easier to do things with the church. I feel like he's feeling an existential crisis... a lack of purpose and close relationships that make life meaningful. When he's down like this, his best defense is to distract himself - TV, games, or fixing up our house when we had one, which he very much enjoys. Here, with me being busy getting ready for finals and him having no house to work on, there are less distractions. He's starting to exercise more which I'm happy about but he's restless. I feel very sad for him, but I don't think he actively plans how to make his life meaningful to him and these feelings creep up now and again. I wish I could help him work through it. I'd love to see him add things to his life that add meaning. For that reason, I will encourage more activity with the church starting next week. I hope it helps.