GUYS: is this normal??
i'm very close to my family, i enjoy being around them and i enjoy doing things with them.
and it just so happens that my boyfriend has the biggest case of girlfriend-family-phobia
that i have EVER seen.
and its so maddening! we go to his moms house at least 3 times a week, and on the days that we dont go over, his little sister comes over to OUR place so needless to say, i learned a long time ago how to get along with his family, i put in the time and effort to get to know all of them and NOW when i see them its a relaxed event.
but from the very BEGINNING he has had something against my family. and its so embarassing what a damn pussy he is about it! on NUMEROUS occasions my family has made plans, invited us along (at least a week in advance) then i go home and talk to mike about it, making it perfectly clear its ok if he doesn't go. he says " no no, i'll go"
so then i make plans and i look forward to them and mike goes along with it all the way up until the VERY LAST MINUTE
he throws a goddamn fit saying he resents me for making him go, that he doesnt want to go, that my parents dont like him and he has no need for them, that my sisters are annoying and the rest of my family is insane..
and it makes me look and feel like an asshole everytime when i've made plans for the BOTH of us, when my family is expecting US. and then i show up by myself, and everyone asks "oh wheres mike?" and i have to make up some fucking excuse that no one believes anymore because excuses only work if you dont overruse them.
i dont understand why if i give him a full opportunity to say no when i ask him, why he doesnt take it
its like he WANTS me to look like an asshole in front of my family
and then of course, it makes my family not like him even more because they see how it makes me feel...
i cant do this, i shouldnt have to choose between my family or my boyfriend, my boyfriend should be man enough to accept situations and not fuckin FLAKE everytime!!!
and it just so happens that my boyfriend has the biggest case of girlfriend-family-phobia
that i have EVER seen.
and its so maddening! we go to his moms house at least 3 times a week, and on the days that we dont go over, his little sister comes over to OUR place so needless to say, i learned a long time ago how to get along with his family, i put in the time and effort to get to know all of them and NOW when i see them its a relaxed event.
but from the very BEGINNING he has had something against my family. and its so embarassing what a damn pussy he is about it! on NUMEROUS occasions my family has made plans, invited us along (at least a week in advance) then i go home and talk to mike about it, making it perfectly clear its ok if he doesn't go. he says " no no, i'll go"
so then i make plans and i look forward to them and mike goes along with it all the way up until the VERY LAST MINUTE
he throws a goddamn fit saying he resents me for making him go, that he doesnt want to go, that my parents dont like him and he has no need for them, that my sisters are annoying and the rest of my family is insane..
and it makes me look and feel like an asshole everytime when i've made plans for the BOTH of us, when my family is expecting US. and then i show up by myself, and everyone asks "oh wheres mike?" and i have to make up some fucking excuse that no one believes anymore because excuses only work if you dont overruse them.
i dont understand why if i give him a full opportunity to say no when i ask him, why he doesnt take it
its like he WANTS me to look like an asshole in front of my family
and then of course, it makes my family not like him even more because they see how it makes me feel...
i cant do this, i shouldnt have to choose between my family or my boyfriend, my boyfriend should be man enough to accept situations and not fuckin FLAKE everytime!!!